Worried about my wife

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26-30, M
Well it started when she went out after work with some co workers for some drinks. Then I noticed she talked about on more than the others.
He even asked her to go out on a date he forgot she was married. We are married 2 years I am 27 .
Anyway to make a long story short I noticed she was talking and always wearing nothing at home but lingerie she said men should wear underwear the same as women, she got me to put some on and I liked it. Now she has me wearing panties and stockings and silky nighties.
I know she wants this boy at work and I get excited thinking of them together I masturbate all the time thinking of her bringing him home for drinks and she takes him to our honeymoon bed to fuck him .I want her to cuckold me and take him as a boyfriend, I am a beta/ omega submissive and she is dominant, she is beautiful with a beautiful body and the boy at work with her is an Alpha male tall and goes to the gym he is good looking.
I know she is on the online chat with him even when we are in bed, even though she tell me she is writing to a girlfriend. When we are both dressed the same in bed in silky satin nightie mine in a beautiful baby pink she calls me her little baby girl in bed.
I want her to have him but I can't tell her, and she won't move to tell me she wants him in her bed I think while we both know she likes him we both don't want to start the ball rolling.
She has me as a sissy submissive, I do not have a big cock I am 5½ inch which is ok and she does take it but I am sure Her co worker is and must be bigger.
She should go by out with him on a date and then come home and tell me to go in the spare bedroom as she has him sleeping with her tonight but I can't say it. And she wants eit he erbi am sure it is her mind.
The time he asked her to go on a date she said to him did you forget I am married, he said oh yes I forgot but ask your husband anyway can you go on a date...maybe he will let you laughingly why she told me I am not sure maybe she was hoping I would say go out with him if you want but I didn't....I should have for the fun but I couldn't even though we I got very excited and had to masturbate.

Sometimes I wish she would go with him it would be so exciting to her to have a boyfriend and I think of her opening her legs to let him in-between and he fucks her wet pussy oh I forgot he asked her the next day after asking her on a date......he said well ??? She said well what ???? He said did you ask your husband can we go out on a date some night. She said I did not anyway he would not let me as a married women go on a date with another man. I got hard again
So it's stalemate I want her to cuckold me and make me a sissy cuckold as she has bought me lots on girls underwear and actually I love it it's so sexy to wear satin and makes my cock lovely.
So that where we are now. But I can't stop thinking of her in bed making love knowing how much she loves cock in her even my one but it does not go too far in. She gets so wet and moans a lot, we have been trying for a year to make her pregnant without success she could not sex him as she is not on the pill and he might be fertile and if he is big and long he might cum straight into womb and make her pregnant I know if she had a cock in her she would hold him in while he cums she gets so excited she would lose control.
So thank you for listening.

Let her have her fun ans she will appriciate you more. We are open with my husband, and often dress eachother out for dates. He always picks things a little too slutty for me and sometimes I have to tone them down.

don't know how you could help in any way, as you dont live here,
I don't have friends I could discuss this with as I would be totally embarrassed because I would have to tell them the whole story and me crossdressing and sleeping In girl nightie with my wife. Most of my real friends do not live anywhere near me anyway.
I have seen this co worker once and he is such a Alpha male. But it was only for a brief moment. She works with him all day and in on the computer to him in the evening well most evenings...
She is never missing outside working so I am 99% sure she is not fucking with him. But she is waiting for me to allow her to have a date and then he will be her Boyfriend.
Joking one day I said a married women can not have a boyfriend to which she said well true but she can if her husband agrees that she can date him,
I honestly believe sissifing and feminising me and making me into a girl is somehow involved with her friend he may be influencing her to make me her girlfried and not a husband. I think she is influenced by him in that way.

Little things like she has put all my fem clothes and lingerie in the drawers in the spare bedroom as we are almost the same size her skirts fit me she has put some skirts and dresses she does not use any more into the wardrobe of the spare bedroom, also the drawers are full of Panties garter belts stockings French knickers bras nighties and some other stuff......she asked me one day would I like satin silky sheets to sleep I said they would be nice thinking it was the marital bed, then one night I came home and she took my hand and took me to the dressing room to show me beautiful pale pink satin sheets on the bed in that room saying don't you love them darling I said so lovely and left it go at that
I wish I could tell her I want to be cuckold as that's all I think about. Her and him together in bed fucking her full of cum.
But maybe some day it will happen.

======this is for anyone in this dilemma=======
if you say and do nothing you will in the end lose her that [inevitable]
you need to start the talk process with open dialogue between you and her
it is obvious she has the hots for the guy and maybe sexual interactions may be already taking place with these changes in outfits, question! is she taking a change of panties? as well if so you need to check the gusset of them the next day when she has gone to work if they have crispy crotchy mean's she is doing it already with him.
now you can either spy on her at the bar stay in the background out of the way, or park up in a dark place in the car park and sit and watch, you will soon find the answers you are looking for.
if she is you have two directions to go 1/=If it pisses you off confront her first then confront him second she will either be all apologetic, I won't do it again I promise it was just a one-off etc or there will be a full-blown row, which she either storms off and returns with her tail between her legs and you start all over a new, or the row between you goes on for months before you sort it out.
or 2/= if it turns you on, you confront her calmly telling her you know and have seen what she is up to BUT it turns you on and you want to see more BUT under your conditions, you want and need to watch as it goes down and also a full verbal account afterwards while you are fucking her re-taking possession of her afterwards and you both have a very enjoyable life afterwards.
or as in situation 1/= above you will never trust her again

i think you should talk about your concerns ,, and see where it goes she might be on the same tract as you with this cuckold thing ,,, and it would solve all your wondering ,,, talking is one of the main things in a relationship ,, if you do not and it seems to concern you a lot ,,, she might get mad part of life or she might leave you ,, also part of life ,, and maybe not meant to be ,, but at lest you know or maybe she will want to continue with this cockold thing and you both win ,,,,

Well how and what would you suggest to have her know I want her to have a boyfriend and have him in our house,
But she told me a week ago that he was living alone as I asked was he married and he could not have a girlfriend if he was married ....she said no he lives in a small flat like a studio.
Then my mind started to think if he became her lover would he spend a lot of time in the bedroom with her and eventually she might suggest he live with us. So that frightened me but also gave me a hard cock and I had to masturbate.
ffs I masturbate think he might live with us... I masturbate if I think of them having bareback sex and maybe her getting pregnant, ...I masturbate thinking of been dressed in ladies clothes in front of him. I even think of them kissing . He feeling her tits and fingering her for the first time then I have to masturbate.

So how do you communicate with her... Do you tell her not to have a boyfriend or dogyou advise her to control me to tell me move into the dressing room as she will have a lover.
It's hard to know what to do....

it sounds like you are being cuckooed. Do you want to be?

Yes I would

I know what I did. I showed up at the bar. Didn't make a scene but let my presence be known.