I Want a Girlfriend Some Days More Than Others...... Being single...

justbewhoyouare

Dear friend, you wrote, "...That connection that only comes through having a relationship. I feel that no matter what I do, what I accomplish... it means nothing if I can't share it with someone I'm that close with, that connected to..." I know this is going to challenge you because it's not what the culture teaches at all, but the truth of the matter is, no one can possibly complete you. That having been said, what you (and everyone else---even the ones who are in a relationship) are truly seeking is a deep connection with what you might call your Higher Self, although it's really who you are in the truest sense. There is a divine part of you that loves and adores you and is the source of all those feelings you think you will have if you only had a girl friend you could kiss and hold hands with and bring flowers to on Valentines Day, and all the rest. Yes, in the presence of a woman you can feel things, but she is only showing you what you already have inside yourself. The mistake humanity has been historically making is to think that you cannot feel that way without this other person. This is simply not the case. If you choose, you can go inside yourself and find a deep love you never knew you had--one that has compassion for the part of you that thinks you need someone else. And the truth is, if you were to develop this incredible relationship with yourself, there would be women hunting you down because they too want a piece of such love. The problem is, they too have to find it inside themselves first, because once you have it, you'll realize the so-called need that others have is an illusion. When two people have found such inner love for themselves, then they can share what they already have without any need. This is a completely different experience than what you see around you. Basically, even those in a relationship suffer because they rely on the other for that emotional support. This is why humans in general suffer, with or without a relationship. So I invite you to get quiet and breathe and begin tapping into that divine presence that is within you. Once you've cultlivated a relationship with the real You, no one can possibly take it away from you. I hope this helps...blessings my friend.

jim3130

IMO, you're a little too young to be concerned about your (post). Life, particularly for males, is bi-furcated. On one side of the coin, you enjoy and appreciate your indedpendence. YOU stated that.
The "flip-side" of the coin? It's difficult to be alone. "No man is an Island". We all need someone in our lives. It's nice to have friends and family to help replace "being alone" ---- buth (they) do not replace a romantic relationship. Someone with whom you want to share your life with. Someone you want to be with. Someone, whom you miss, every minute of the day (he or she) is gone.
As far as "falling in love with every woman you see"? This speaks of desperation. And,, IMO, that's what you're going through. It is NOT news to anyone of us on this forum. We've (at least most of us) have experienced, or do experience your plight.
Again, you're a liitle too young to be worried about it. Believe it or not --- the right "mate" will come along to you, in your life. You will know it when it happens. And it will be wonderful. Except --- never forget the 1st side of the "coin" --- you NOW lose the "independence" and "freedom" that you (once) enjoyed. You are now required to "belong" to someone, with your undying trust and love.
It's a difficult choice to make. Independence and freedom --- or, NOW, being "tied" down. Although, being "tied down" --- no longer makes you lonely. BUT --- you now surrender your "independence and freedom". Not an easy choice --- but we all to make one. Your call.
Finally --- and I'll repeat it --- you're a little "too young" to be so worried about something that is, eventually, going to "work its way out" --- a relationship.
Best wishes and regards to you: JIM

emmamaderadegallo

I agree with you JustBeWhoYouAre, but sometimes it is difficult for someone who does not fully comprehend the concept of "true-self", to find it.
I have tried to find my true-self and I believe I have grasped a little bit of it for just a few times in my life, and it has felt great, and I cannot imagine what kind of wonderful feelings would come if I get to fully understand it.
I had a 7 years relationship which had a lot of ups and downs (probably more downs than ups), and helped me learn more about life, but also helped feel this need for a woman, which does not exist in my life now, and with whom I could share my life: hold hands, kiss, sleep, wake up, go out, let her know that I love her, share all my feelings and emotions, eat with. A honest woman that could make me feel that all my feelings towards her are reciprocate, and at the same time we could support each other while growing up spiritually.
I believe I am asking for too much, and I try to go to the spiritual side, but there is always a time when I let this other side of me pulls me and makes me feel lonely and sometimes frustrated since at my age, I have not been able to find what I would like to have in my life, but then I think about something that is just true for me: One gets what one truly wishes for and deserves, and makes me wonder if I will ever find that special person with whom I might share my material and spiritual life.
I think love such a wonderful feeling, that can make people change, that can make one archive "impossible" goals, but such feeling is only capable of such things if it is pure: honest, respectful towards God, others and oneself.
May God bless you and guide you all.

sanderlay

There are certainly advantages and disadvantages to being single. But from your comments you seem to be concentrating on the disadvantages. What about the serenity and calm that comes from doing what you wish... when you wish? You can have your castle neat and clean or have live with your own clutter. If you don't feel like doing the dishes you don't have to. You can watch what you want on TV. Of course you reap the consequences of every action... or lack of action. ;)

As several have pointed out and I will certainly echo... a bad relationship is even worse. What seems on the outside as all warm and fuzzy could be a tension of words and issues at other times. You have a lot of freedom right now. Revel in it.

Ask a married person how much freedom they have? How much sleep they get? What problems they had do deal with in their own home last week... disposal income because of their responsibilities? Add one... two... or more kids to the mix... and your life right now will seem like nirvana... or heaven in comparison. They will be envious of your freedom and your situation.

So yes... that intimacy can be very tempting... very desirable. And some don't cope well with being alone for long periods. But... there are other ways to mix with friends... or make new friends and share a part of your life. But solitude has its rewards if you seek them out and enjoy them to the fullest.

andy1983

I think I can relate to this situation... It's not me not been into this but its my ex-boyfriend that's into this right now. We broke up for certain reason that he don't want a hard life and unfortunately I grew up poor and with no degree and he finds it scary to realize what future he will have with me. So instead he gave up on the relationship and focused on his career and dated many he find perfect and that suits well for himself... Ended up coming back to me and confessing he never have found such connection we used to have and that said, he can't open himself good to others even if they are obviously attracted to him. I feel sad about it because on some level I've moved on inspite of how hard it had been to me. Accepting what I can't change is what strengthen me to move forward with my life and moving forward with no regret. But I saw him really in agony now, wondering and wishing things would go back from how it used to be. I wish for his happiness but I can't imagine seeing myself being abused emotionally, he can become somewhat he used to be and I don't want that.
I hope its different from you, maybe one day you'll find the right girl that fits you. I think patience is all we need in this lifetime to survive... it's very easy to write the word nor say it but I'm very aware how hard it will be to keep that patience with you.
I just wish you good luck and may you find what you're looking for one day.

purespirit78

My friend, I truly understand what you are feeling. I haven't been in a relationship for nearly nine years. I too miss the cuddles, the kisses, etc . I can truly and honestly say, many people out in our world are missing love. However it is the real love, the real unconditional love most are missing from their lives.

Many seek love as in "I love you babe, because you're good in bed or a good cook". The real love is you love them no matter what and for who they are. Getting back to the sense of emptiness is definitely something I can relate to and it all boils down to you need love inside you, not really from someone else in a sense.

Actually I find that from a relationship it's more joyful for me to give out that I know I can give in compassion, honesty and sincerity from my heart, as sometimes your partner doesn't have the energy to give back as you do.

Please remember, you have the power to change your life the way you want it. Just learn to trust yourself (self love) and take each moment as a scenario to play with. You can find love. Go with your strongest excitement and you will succeed :)

All the best of luck

loverOfScience

i hope im not repeating anything anyone else said, dont have the patience to go through previous comments. Yes you may be able to share things with that one person, and she or he can share things with you. But that one person is never going to be able to offer you everything. even if you think he or she does, he or she cant, its simply impossible. i find it better to be single for the rest of your life, yes, sounds depressing, however, you learn more about the world itself than seeing the world inside one human being. The world is an amazing place, so travel it, learn about its wonders, secrets, phenomenons, etc. A woman nor another man can offer something so amazing, they can only offer themeselves and what they have to offer. If you explore more, you meet new people who have more to offer, each thing to offer being new each time. You just wouldnt have that kind of freedom in a relationship. no one needs love to survive in life, screw that and the people that think it.

roxy44

It;s sometimes hard to find a soul mate or someone whom with what you can share as you. we have become such a protective universal me!! the most important thing is to be who you are and not what you think people expect you to be. It is only when we are who we really are can we attract someone who fits us. If you pretend to be something else then you will project this and attract the wrong element to you. you are young don;t give yourself a hard time most good, real people don't know who they really are until later in life, enjoy your experiences but don't give up hope on finding that person who truly connects with you. life is a journey not a destination. good luck may what you believe in be by your side whether that be God, spiritualism, cult, higher being , ufos whatever we are who we are and no-one can change your inner being, learn from yourself what that is.................

then go forward with love and hope in your heart

Luphmuffin

A long time ago, I decided that I would not get into a committed relationship unless I was sure I could truly commit and I could only truly commit if I was in love. Unfortunately both times I've been in love, a relationship wasn't really an option, they were already taken. There fore, I have learned to live with this feeling you describe. I take every ounce of that energy and put it towards bettering myself. Right now I'm trying to teach myself to cook. You can focus on getting in shape, learning another language, reading more often...there are countless options. As a result, I'm a more educated, well rounded person, with highly developed skills...and I can actually function on a daily basis. Of course sometimes the feeling leaks through but I can pull myself through it by focusing the energy on something else. Try it!

Supersarra

Dear,

you are describing me when you write this, I even had some tiny tears gathered in my eyes ..
love is a great gift, at some point i said "love forgot about me" even though I deserve to love and to be kissed over and over again .. there is nothing wrong with me :)

I love love, and I love to see those who are in love.. and deep inside of me .. even though am happy where I am .. I want to be inlove

I hate it when I get romantic, when I write poetry.. and can't give that to someone.. I want a man that I write my poetry to ..
when I day dream .. I want a real face .. not any actor I saw in some movie .. :)

i love myself, i love my friends and I love people all around me .. call it passion for life, and that helps me to think of other things than a love between a woman and a man ..

I just look at myself in the mirror and say " how could any man not see you as a woman?"

of course, there comes the part when u finally gave your heart to someone and were too afraid to tell him, he loved your best friend! WOW... what a beautiful experience ! haha .. I like to joke about my life .. yeah he was a fool, for loving her eyes instead of mine.. but u know what ?! love will be found, when we least expect it ..

just go, and never expect it :) ..

peace *hugs*

u need a new friend ? text me ;) ! I know i do

Arrow17

Dear friend, you are working and studying for your future soul mate. You are a man that will support your girl friend when she will pregnant and have a child. You can start to do everything for your future wife. You should prepare your self financially for her.

My husband and I were very lonely individuals. We both were unhappy with our lives. My husband has strong financial status. I was a very naive and vulnerable woman because of my family back ground. I thanks God that makes we meet each other. My husband was single until 49 year old. His friend thought that he will never get married. He often got a wrong girl friend. But he married me when he was 50 year old.

Dear friend, I believe you will meet your soul mate not for so long. You need to wait. You are still young I believe next few years she will come to your life.
If you believe in God you will have to start to pray. I met my husband when I prayed for soul mate to Jesus.

Delightfu11deb

I think being single is an advantage if you want to do things on your own with out discussion and think in your mind your would have no one to answer two ? But if u love some one and they love you there should be no one holding any one back and If a relation ship is strong you both should be able to help each other with what they want to achieve , it shouldn't be about saying you can't do this and you can't do that I think the key is if you want to do some thing do it but if the other person wants to do something dnt stop them it has to work both ways split down the middle an if you come to a gridlock on something talk about it an compromise that's my theory lol never found any one to think like me yet but I live in hope ha ha x

Silvermane1516

I have been divorced for the past 28 years, with many failed relationships following that divorce. I pretty much resigned myself to the possibility that I would spend the rest of my life alone. (Alone, but not lonely; there is a difference.) As it turns out, however, the universe had a different plan for me. Through Facebook, I reconnected with a high school acquaintance. He told me that I was his "secret love" in high school, but he was too shy to tell me. He said he would watch me every day as I walked from class to class, wishing he could find the courage to ask me out. Fast-forward: forty-one years later, we are dating exclusively and are very much in love; there may even be wedding bells in our future.

It is never too late to find love; the important thing is to be open to it.

Bruin8497

I can feel you pain. I'm 45 years old and I have NEVER had a significant other. It's not like I've not tried; but every time I've asked someone to go out they come up with some excuse. Then I see them with a guy the very next day. It has been years since I've tried to go out on a date. To tell you the truth, I've quit trying. It's obvious females don't want a guy like me. I don't look like other guys (i.e. not very good looking) plus I've had some problems in the past with my personal life that probably has scared them off. I would love to have someone to go out with from time to time but it's just not meant to me. I might as well accept it. At least you're younger and have got some time; my time for finding someone has just about run out. I hope you do have a family that loves you because, outside of my family, no one cares about me. I guess when all my relatives die I might as well kill myself because it will be better to be in a better place with people I know than here on earth all alone. Take care of yourself and do good in college.

Rona1122

I understand where you're coming from 100%. I've been going through this as well. Walking down the street and seeing couples I get depressed because I'm constantly asking myself when am I going to find that. But it will happen eventually I guess don't worry. They say good things happen to those who wait. My advice is don't go out looking for love and stressing yourself out about it. When you do that, you just end up wasting your time and never actually finding what you're looking for. Occupy yourself with other things. Take finding a girlfriend completely out of your mind. I promise she'll walk into your life when you least expect it :)

sisypwimp

I read in Sociology that this sort of thing happens to young men, especially if you are living in a town. it can be devastating to young men. It even drives some to suicide, but if you can make it through those awkward younger years, life gets better. I have been single now for a few months, and I am at the age when I like to reminisce about love passed bye. I remember with fond memories that are always fading away in time. I have learned that even now that I am getting older and love shouldn't happen for a ugly guy like me, that there always seems to be some girl out there for me eventually, if I only can be patient. it rarely works out for me, but I always give it my best shot and have lots of fun along the way. Good luck.

Brandiecandie

I feel as though you have to bring something to that women that she needs! Can't be without! You both have to share that passion for one another! Do you believe in a higher power? or have something that you and that special person can share a special place? That's home base! I use God! He is our foundation... what we run back to when we lose site but you can use other things if that is not your belief system but it works. A Family that prays together stays together. Hey become a millionaire and that will help a lilhttp://getweeklypaychecks.com/brandiest.remy go here and check it out!

jes21

That was really sweet. It sounds like you'd be a terrific boyfriend. I'm single too and that's the way I need it for the next 12 to 24 months or so. I'm in a nursing program that allows no time for anything else but work, and as for work, I own an Internet company. Everything you described....is so true. I love Tennyson, Shakespeare, Longfellow, "'tis better to have loved and lost than never loved at all..." I believe in God and know He'll get me through these years, so far doing just fine on my own, but one day... one can only hope. :)

HopelessRomanticGuy

I really feel what you're feeling. It's like someone put my feelings into words that I am not quite able to put into words. I never ever had a girlfriend. I'm quite okay with singleness but sometimes it's really tough when you have that burning sensation in your heart where you long for that someone special who is dear to your heart, who's your other half, your better half.. Who is there to care for you, encourage you, support you, and who you can pour your heart out to.

losttoo

My heart breaks for everyone who wants to feel connected to someone and isn't. In my own situation I'm in a long-term relationship and don't have that connected feeling that I so want. My best advice for you is to live the best life you can live and put yourself out there so the right person can find you. Be active with the things that you are interested in whether it be social activities, working out, church, etc....love will find you when the time is right.

CompNerd89

I can relate. In a little more than a month, it will be two years since I last had a girlfriend. I feel that I CAN live without a girlfriend or lover, but I ultimately won't be as happy. If only I found that one special person out there, I'd feel like rejoicing and being on top of the world. Whether I'll ever find that right person seems kind of out of my reach for me, though.

Pathnotknown

Hey guys, all that is so close to my feelings. Sometimes loneliness really gets me. But then I calm down. Each time it becomes bitter, I know that I will feel better tomorrow. Let yourselves feel your pain, but still know that there will be a relief soon. The main thing is not to become too concentrated on this, it won't help you in finding your love. Apart from that, use any known opportunity to find someone for you - go out or search some dating sites, as you wish. When you keep yourselves occupied, you will know that at least you tried, it could make you feel a bit better. Good luck to all of us!

flex4life13

Ah, the very sole thing that has been eating away at me for about a year now. I have had a 4 year relationship which I idolized and made it something which it ultimately wasn't. I can truly say I was completely in love with her and she with me. Nonetheless, I have very often felt alone throughout those years. This goes to show that you yourself decide wether you feel alone or lonely. I recently started dating someone and I am falling into the same trap. I look for her to make me happy, her very text message keeps me smiling. My Point is that if I keep doing this I will be bound to be miserable. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated guys. I'm 24 male btw.

Anneliesje

Everything that follows an "I want" line, confirms something that you do not [ think to have ] have or something that you [ think to ] need, that is to me, the not-so-good-news

There is nothing that you need to have apart from yourself to be happy

No I myself do not have a relationship currently, unless my partner has become very small and stays aside me without my knowledge ;)

Yes I have had 4 relationships, 3 with a girl and one with a boy, well let's say it was kinda complicated;)

Obviously there is something missin' [ in your opinion ] otherwise you would not have written such detailed story, which, to me, was expressed well, and easy and interesting to read.

Well to cut a long story short, I am not a relationship therapist, otherwise I would have had a relationship myself still, or maybe not;)

That is it, my two cents of added value, in euros of course haha ;)

corsairII

If you are around woman you just need to look at them and occasionally complement them. You will be able to tell who is interested. Ask for a casual thing to do or "date" if you will at first.

If not you need a more direct approach and ask woman you see on a first casual date after first giving them a complement and striking up a conversation. If this does not work you may need an internet or newspaper add. But don't get down, it may take time and the salesman who makes the most sales calls usually gets the most sales.

Either way good luck. Corsair II

Quinzy52

I am 59 and have never had a girlfriend. I have always had trouble around girls/women. It is the Confidence thing for me. Whenever I try to talk to a woman I become a clam. I know I should be asking them about themselves and what they like but,I clam up and get nervous. I wish you well. I want to meet a woman that will accept me for who I am and will be my best friend. Someone that will be there for me on the Good days and the Bad. And I can be there for her.

AliceMalice

This is exactly me, except I'm a girl, so I guess it happens to both genders. It's that "forever alone" concept and you just can't seem to break out of it. Maybe that special person hasn't come along yet, there's no rush. Just enjoy life and one day she'll just pop in when your least expecting it, bright and shining, and everything will just fall into place. Have a little faith, it'll go a long way.

thepath

hey...whatever you have written is right.... actually i feel the same problem in me. but think this way LOVE isa precious thing.it is not just holding hand and kissing .it is more than that. you have to CHANGE YOURSELF FOR YOUR PARTNER.SOMETIMES . if u waana make gf just beacuse you don't have one.then i can assure you there would be lack of trust between you and your problem.a situation may come when your partner would stop you to do things you loved..like she feels jealous when you meet youe female friends.. you need to able to react in such a way that no one neither your girlfriend nor youe friend get hurt. So i would sugest you to wait for your right person. trust me god has made a beautiful girl for u. and she is waiting there. don't cheat her. be reserved for her who deserves you...:)

thepath

hey...whatever you have written is right.... actually i feel the same problem in me. but think this way LOVE isa precious thing.it is not just holding hand and kissing .it is more than that. you have to CHANGE YOURSELF FOR YOUR PARTNER.SOMETIMES . if u waana make gf just beacuse you don't have one.then i can assure you there would be lack of trust between you and your problem.a situation may come when your partner would stop you to do things you loved..like she feels jealous when you meet youe female friends.. you need to able to react in such a way that no one neither your girlfriend nor youe friend get hurt. So i would sugest you to wait for your right person. trust me god has made a beautiful girl for u. and she is waiting there. don't cheat her. be reserved for her who deserves you...:)

Dreampoet

I totally understand your feelings. I have been alone for 2 years now. It is hard to be alone. But I try and take up my free time exercising and weight training. It helps to take up the energy and also it puts you in a better light to them. At least in my experience. They always told me when your not looking, they will find you when you least expect it. Good Luck. It will happen.

Sixties

I see this from the other side of the glass. I am 65 years old and recently widowed,I look back and would not change a thing. It has been and will continue to be a good life. I miss the love of my life deeply. She will never be relaced but i find myself craving female company.
Make the commitment to love while you are young. Yes its scary but the rewards are wonderful! The trick is to find the right one. You'll know when you do.

P47Thunderbolt

I know where you are coming from. Am a well educated, smart, relatively successful but physically unattractive bloke myself. Alone for most of my adult life. Concentrate on other things, make the best of your life and just accept that relationships are something you just can't have. Just get on with being as happy and fulfilled as you can. Forget about girls. If you do get to know someone chances are they will do something to deliberately hurt you just because they can. You can't change the world but that does not stop you from being a successful human being. Been places and done things that most people can only dream of. Accept the situation and move on.

Rennn

I can relate to the 'see every girl who talks to me as a potential opportunity' part, and the part about being bitter, and the part about wanting independence on some days. I'm not really qualified to give psychological advice, but it seems to make me more 'socially adept' if I can find something to make it seem like members of the opposite sex are not infallible. Of course, I would never cause a female (or male, but that's irrelevant) to fail at something, but if they do indeed experience some failure on their part, for some reason it makes me more secure. That doesn't sound healthy, does it?

northshortstories

You are so smart in the way you think about your situation. I will share with you an opportunity to meet girls I stumbled upon. In every city no matter where you live. They have what they call Meetup groups. You join for free online. Then when you see a Meetup you like. You go join people (girls) ha.. Having the same interests as you. The woman at the meetup are not afraid because it is in a group setting. Just go and google. ( Meetup groups ) then add the city your in. Have a blast meeting people. And good luck.

northshortstories

You are so smart in the way you think about your situation. I will share with you an opportunity to meet girls I stumbled upon. In every city no matter where you live. They have what they call Meetup groups. You join for free online. Then when you see a Meetup you like. You go join people (girls) ha.. Having the same interests as you. The woman at the meetup are not affraid because it is in a group setting. Just go and google. ( Meetup groups ) then type in the city your in. Have a blast meeting people. And good luck.

franksilves

I relate to this post. I'm 40 and have just met a gal through some friends. We went out and it seemed all good & glory but then she turned cold toward me. Its busting me up terribly. She lives about 150 miles away and has a job from hell with very, very little spare time for herself. . I've tried texting, calling and then she said she not looking for a relationship at the moment. Talk about been kicked in the bollocks. She has recently been divorced and I'm choking on the fact that I was just a 'rebound' fling. After been single for all my life i thought this was it. I've finally found my soul mate. We just had so much in common. She's on my mind 24/7. How do i win her heart over? Any ideas anybody. I to become teary eyed cyling to work along the marina and seen all those happy couples. I'm always saying to myself that everybody got somebody. Why have I got nobody? The lonliness does do its best to 'Dig in' at times making me all depressed and people telling me not to worry because it will happen just makes me want to pull out what remaining hair I got left. I have tried to find a lover in the past but failed in part due to complications in my early life 20's to early 30's. It now makes me want to conclude that some people are meant to be alone, I guess I'm just one of those people:(

mtrios

What really spoke to me is the falling in love with every girl thing XD I'm the same way, even if I don't really like the person. Although I'm different from you in that I don't need someone to talk to, but instead miss being the emotional anchor. I need people, to need me, if that makes sense.

KeasbeyNights · 31-35, M

YES, exactly! I mean, I ultimately can live alone, but I don't think I'll be as happy without love. And I feel you, it seems sometimes like it'll never happen, like it's always out of reach... but I'll always the have hope that it can happen!

KeasbeyNights · 31-35, M

Wow, thanks for all the new comments everyone!

It's good to know that so many people can relate to how I'm feeling. Well, not good, but you know what I mean; it makes one feel better when there are other sympathetic souls in the same boat.

danhowesuk

Know what u mean qhere u coming from all though its not that long since i split with my ex but i still get some of those feelings u mention especially when u see others enjoying each others love & companionship

JonnySlackMallon

wow, its as if you just read my mind and posted it on here. this is exactly how i feel and i could never have put it better words. But don't worry my friend, there will be someone out there for you, shes just waiting for you to find her

Kriekki

Kinda know how you feel. Been stuck in the same kind of situation. love my life, but just alone. And everyone always tells me not to worry someday some guy will come along and sweep me of my feet, but I just don't buy into that fairytale bs. It just seems like sharing my life with someone is not meant for me. Guess some of us just have to make peace with it.

rmsunako

You are right.Its worthless achieving something when there is noone to share that achievement with. But I think that the right person will come along at the right time. I have noticed this weird pattern of life. Heck, I have experienced it. You will surely get the things which you 'really' and 'truly' want in life, in the truest sense of the word. People try to pass these kind of things as miracles, but nothing is a miracle really.
Wish you luck

lysbette

Omg I feel the same exact way. I love the single life but Im missing that connection. no matter what I do or accomplish it feels like it doesnt mean nothing

purestfelicity

It's odd how I've had the same feeling, but not the slightest idea of how to put into words. You've done just that for me, thank you.

KeasbeyNights · 31-35, M

I won't do it if I can help it-I'm not that kind of person-but I can't say never; sometimes, things are just out of our control.

428674han

lol..man, funny how you could write all that's about me. It's been over 2 years and counting...lol It's sometimes depressing to think about specially when you see your ex-girlfriend in another 2 separate relationships with other guys in two years while me still being single all that time. It makes me feel that she might be thinking i'm still not over her when in fact i am ready now to mingle. In my case, i don't really go out and have casual sex with random chicks. That's just not me. Right now, there's this girl that i like and she likes me too i can tell, but the real problem is we can't be together as we both work in different countries although we both come from the same home country. Long distance relationship is not my business so it's another sad story for me.

thunderland2

i am in the same boat. its been 8 yrs sinse i have had a girlfriend. i'm a desent guy, respectful, honest. i see women,girls walking around with drunk, unkempt, poorly dressed, vulgar jeks, and say to my self why them an not me. i don't do drugs, smoke, drink. so whats the answer. it seems to me that if you have little money, no big house, no fancy car, no awsome looks, your out, down for the count. the fact that your a desent gent is only a nice bonus over and above the the other adtributes.

EEPster

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I totally feel your pain, as I'm in just about the same situation myself.

davidXGB

You need to have unrealistic amounts of self confidence or else they're just not interested