Seeking Love Isn’t Desperation — It’s Human

Just because a woman is seeking a man doesn’t mean she’s lacking anything.
I treat myself well. I buy myself nice things. I hold myself down in every way that matters.

But no matter how strong or independent a woman is, she’s still human and humans crave connection.
Wanting love, partnership, and emotional presence is not weakness. It’s real.

A man who truly wants to be there will show up no excuses, no confusion. So what’s the issue?
Why is it that when a woman expresses her desire for something genuine, it’s met with suspicion or judgment?

And if online dating isn’t safe, then why are we all here? Why does it even exist?
We come here because we want to find something meaningful not because we’re desperate or naive.

Some of us are just done pretending not to care.
We’re not looking for attention. We’re looking for something real.
Stop confusing intention with desperation.

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WillaKissing · 56-60, M

I never came to this site thinking I would meet a woman let alone about dating, this is not a dating site. I stopped that dating site a long time ago myself.

Once an Older man like me (60 years young) that has been betrayed and single for 18 years now and quit trying dating 11 years ago for all the BS involved with modern dating. I just decided to focus on the things that I love and do already in my life and the people and family that I already have and love.

I am done trying and sacrificing myself to make someone else happy while it only makes me miserable. Why not decided you like the person as you found them and not change them into what you want?

I understand what you have said, but I quit believing in relationship and being coupled to a woman to be happy. I have that already as an eternally single person. I can't complete anyone else or make anyone else happy that has to come from within them first.

Sorry you have a great post, but I do not believe SW is a place to date or to find love. Honestly it is a place of expression, learning, sharing, and trying to make someone else to laugh for me. I have made a few great friends here, but I never thought of it as a dating/relationship venture here.

Leni03 I truly do understand your post and bid you the best of luck. Sorry that my reply is skeptical.

emiliya · 22-25, F

@WillaKissing Wise man.

WillaKissing · 56-60, M

@emiliya Thank you, and it took a while to become wise and educated about life and the the world.

Thank you very kindly.

emiliya · 22-25, F

@WillaKissing Yes, it takes learning and experience. We have to realize that personal goals, stability, finances, and family are what matter. We should not be falling for strangers on the internet and getting involved in romantic entanglements that hurt us and hinder our freedom and growth.