I am a bit perplexed
My son and his girlfriend broke up, apparently a while ago.
Now, I already knew it was happening. I knew it back last year. He was tuning out and it was visible.
I had told him a while back that if they broke up, she was okay to stay. That doesn't include the "out by March", which she finally told me wasn't possible. I said we'd deal with it when it comes.
But apparently, she didn't want me to know because she was afraid I would kick her out. So she told my son not to tell me. I caught him at a moment of weakness and he admitted they had.
Now, I wouldn't just kick her out because she's not with my son anymore. I am not that kind of person.
But it does bother me that she is obfuscating the truth to benefit herself. I dislike lying through ommission. I hate lying period. To me, this is an offense to ingegrity, especially since I have been letting her live at my house for free since Sept of last year. I feel I deserve some honesty. This is not being honest.
And then, she comes out of the room the other night, asking me to be quiet because she's sleeping. Well, I understand i was being noisy. I was cooking. That can be noisy. But she has no job and can sleep all day long, whereas, I have work and a schedule I need to keep because it is a hard schedule to work.
I just feel at this point that I'm being taken advantage of and I am thinking she needs to move back in with her mom, or something come March because I'm not happy about the way this was done.
This has been on my mind for the last 30 hours.
Now, I already knew it was happening. I knew it back last year. He was tuning out and it was visible.
I had told him a while back that if they broke up, she was okay to stay. That doesn't include the "out by March", which she finally told me wasn't possible. I said we'd deal with it when it comes.
But apparently, she didn't want me to know because she was afraid I would kick her out. So she told my son not to tell me. I caught him at a moment of weakness and he admitted they had.
Now, I wouldn't just kick her out because she's not with my son anymore. I am not that kind of person.
But it does bother me that she is obfuscating the truth to benefit herself. I dislike lying through ommission. I hate lying period. To me, this is an offense to ingegrity, especially since I have been letting her live at my house for free since Sept of last year. I feel I deserve some honesty. This is not being honest.
And then, she comes out of the room the other night, asking me to be quiet because she's sleeping. Well, I understand i was being noisy. I was cooking. That can be noisy. But she has no job and can sleep all day long, whereas, I have work and a schedule I need to keep because it is a hard schedule to work.
I just feel at this point that I'm being taken advantage of and I am thinking she needs to move back in with her mom, or something come March because I'm not happy about the way this was done.
This has been on my mind for the last 30 hours.
