Toxic relationships… female dominance

@Elisbch Sometimes finances make it difficult. In my case I made the sacrifice for my sanity.

@Gibbon

This is true about finances. One has to weigh their options and sometimes very carefully. How much is one's sanity worth is for only them to answer. For me, too much to hang around long.

@KingofBones1 King I let her take what she wanted and I got the house. Refinanced and was literally living check to check to the dollar in a house that was financially upside down. The company I worked for 15 years shut down our division at a time the job market was thin and lowering pay. I was screwed but didn't look back. I was given three months notice and a very large severance. The house went to short sale and I let everything go with it. I downsized to the little apartment I'm in now the bottom floor of an old farm house half the normal rent around here. Been here 15 years and 11 of those with Vickie the best relationship we both ever had. I retired right when the pandemic started and Vickie and I got to spend her last years sheltered together. Doing life one day at time now but thankful for where I am and how things worked out since the day that horrible relationship ended. Plus I'm living on social security and a very small pension and have never in my life been so financially stable.

@Gibbon I'm glad for you as you said that you got the blessing of having Vicky in your life and now it's taking a better more stable direction. Sometimes things do happen for a reason and I am the same way I am glad no matter what even regardless of time spent alone that I got rid of the evil baggage because as bad as it was I do realize the damage could have been far worse

@KingofBones1 Totally agree. I'm just living with the sadness alone now because Vickies life was cut to short. She was only 61.

@Gibbon I completely understand even though this person did not die in the relationship actually ended badly in a way. It was hard for me to get used to the idea after 18 years of living with someone to coming home to an empty quiet house every night. But I am managing. It does get better my friend keep your head up. You sound like a cool dude and I'm sure there is somebody out there who would appreciate you

@KingofBones1 No I'm finished. Losing Vickie left me a world of grief like I've never known. I do well enough to take care of our pets who thankfully are company and keep vickies soul close to me.

@Gibbon she is never dead as long as you carry her in your heart and remember my friend you will see each other again and this time it will be forever. Just know that if she loved you anyway close to the love you had for her she would also not wish to see you unhappy or suffer because that would break her heart. Live for yourself and live for her

@Elisbch not if you've been already manipulated into believing that you wouldn't be able to cope in the outside world without her. Or that her lawyers wouldn't leave a shred of you worth having. It happens. Frequently. Here in the UK a programme was recently shown, "My wife, the abuser". She was faking injuries upin herself allegedly by him, she already had doctors, police, friends and family on her side before he even realised that there was a problem.

@Philth In my case this in no way applies and I find it appalling. The only thing I could say I was manipulated was in paying her half of the divorce to her lawyer, I never got one, in person to his face. I told him she wasn't going to pay and I was more than glad to getting her out of my life. I thanked him for his services and we shook hands and he said after meeting you both I understand.

@Philth


One thing I've learned is that women always have an agenda and if not at first, it will come. Unfortunately, in some countries, the legal system favors the opposite sex. I've been down this road before as many have. I find it's best never to get into a legal agreement with the opposite sex. It can be a harsh decision for many to accept but the peace and safety that follows that decision is fabulous. Life is short. I'm not wasting any more of it looking over my shoulder and wondering what if down the road. Friendships only. A man can never afford to turn their soul over and lose himself in a relationship and give his power of their mate. It's an emotional prison.
That program that you saw, My Wife, the Abuser. Another title for that program is "Her Agenda". Always keep your soul at all costs.
I hope you never find yourself in that man's position of that program.
We bend too much to please more often than not.

@Elisbch The programme is just the tip of a very big iceberg. Female on male domestic abuse is far more prevalent than anyone dare admit.

@NortiusMaximus So true. Verbal and physical.

@Gibbon Yet the police still routinely claim it's not a police matter when a woman assaults and injures a man.

@NortiusMaximus

I agree with you 100% on that!