I want a divorce

I have decided I’m done. I just can’t anymore. After 12 years married and 15 years together and knowing each other for over 20 years. And I’ve already had one divorce in my early 20s. I’m just a failure. And I won’t even do this until my kids are adults because I know it will still hurt them as adults but I won’t take away the last few years of childhood from them so I have to suck it up and pretend to be happy. And don’t worry we don’t fight in front of them and when we do fight we are very silent so the kids think all is well and it will stay that way. We are just growing farther apart in all aspects lately and I don’t even want to be around him. Im really upset so I’m not really looking for advice or anything like that I’m just venting and here is a great place to do that. I’m just sooo done and honestly if he wants to be honest with himself I think he is too.

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ronisme1 · 61-69, M

I was married for 17 years when i was divorced. I met my current wife and have now been married for 30 plus years. You just know

SWfan · 41-45, M

@ronisme1 my hat's off to you.

tiltawhirl · 36-40, F

@ronisme1 Very nice. BUT. You are on here.. flirting around? So are you truly happy? Or is this what you and your wife do together? Not to be rude or judgy about it but actually a sincere question.

in10RjFox · M

@tiltawhirl finding his next wife.. just in case his wife .. I mean life permits..

ronisme1 · 61-69, M

@tiltawhirl is flirting cheating. She is aware im on here and knows i will not cheat

tiltawhirl · 36-40, F

@ronisme1 I never said you were cheating. My point was more so wondering if you are happy or if you are lacking something in your second marriage as well

in10RjFox · M

@ronisme1 just because she wants to call it quits on her marriage, doesn't mean she's flirting and cheating. You cannot impose your strategy on someone else. God knows you don't cheat by the books, but he knows how you cheat in disguise but trying to paint yourself as a saint.

ronisme1 · 61-69, M

@in10RjFox i am not a saint. Never said i was. She is able to log on here and read everything i say and do. Success is based on communication. And i am lacking excitement and adventure. Something i cant have with a heart condition

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Captain · 61-69, M

@in10RjFox I dont feel like a saint - I recognise I'm walking down a road of sin I would never had taken if things had been good between us - and its not the right road - but I dont want to die without having lived first - as I will do. if I do nothjing - and if I am being selfish in that, then I should be judged by that - but don't forget she's been the one threatening to kick me out - not the other way around - even though our earnings have always been 5:1 mine to her's going into the household but she's the one with the minature cup colleciton and the campoer van and the model railway, and who decides shes off on holiday and I'm just an option to go with her if I want. I've just got a leather chair to show for it.