I’m all trying to explain to my wife how disappointed I was with her to flake out on last night’s plans out of nowhere

Plans we made over a month ago, then the day it happens, she suddenly decides she doesn’t want to go anymore. I was trying to stress how much that upset me and her answer to that was “Just get over it!” Wow. Maybe I will, then. Maybe I am over it, and her, and everything about her. Maybe I’m willing to personally buy her a moving truck and luggage so she can leave and go wherever, then afterwards, we can file for divorce. If that upsets her, she can just get over it.

But that’s all I’m going to post about her right now. Not even she can kill the butterflies I have in me at this moment.

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SW-User

Do you think she's secretly got an issue with you being happier with Desmond...or that she is also deciding that she's tired of this marriage and is acting as rude as possible trying to push you away from her now that you have him in your life? Responding to flaking out on month-old plans at the last minute with no real excuse, and then saying "just get over it" when you call her out on it, is pretty darn careless and coldhearted.

Ducky · 31-35, F

@SW-User Considering she’s actively encouraged me to be with him, especially when she’s away, and is always so nice and compassionate with him (she’s outright said she likes him), I don’t think she has any issue whatsoever with Desmond. Plus, this has been going on for some time. I’m confident it has nothing to do with Desmond. She says she doesn’t want to leave me too, which I’m sure may be true enough. Her issue is she just needs to grow a backbone and deal with her problems through counseling. She just won’t.

SW-User

@Ducky Very true, she has been acting like this with you for a long time now. I hope she realizes before it's too late that she needs help.