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Would you take objection if your spouse wanted to keep photos of his/her late spouse on the parlour walls?

A young lady here in my village recently married a widower. He is 41, she is 24. They have been married 3 months now. He was married to his late wife 15 years before she passed. Everything has gone well in their relationship/marriage up until this point.

2 weeks ago, her mother decided to impose upon the newly married couple. The mother-in-law convinced the lady that if the man truly loves her, he would be able to move on and focus all of his attention on her. The wife asked her husband to take down the photos but he refused.

In response, the mother-in-law demanded the lady move back in with her and her husband until the man takes down the photos. The husband has filed a grievance demanding that if the wife doesn't return in 3 days, the family should return the bride price, which would dissolve the marriage.
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Scribbles · 36-40, F
His late wife was (assuming they had a good relationship) a very important part of his life. Having photos of good memories is a good thing and a good reason to keep them up. No reason to take them down. If the wife and mother in law are feeling insecure then THAT is the problem that needs addressing. Maybe they need more reassurance?

I married man who was previously divorced. His ex was a big part of his life for awhile. I am his wife now and feel secure in my relationship. I have no problem that some.photos in our shared digital photo frame include a few.good memories from those days. It doesn't change the present to have photos of the past up.

It seems like such a silly grievance of the mother in law to demand the photos come down. How about putting MORE photos up so the wall Includes photos of the new wife too. :)

That's how I see it. But I also know in some.places in the world it's more culturally acceptable to put away one's late spouse:s stuff and.photos when you remarry- so idk
Maybe people just have to decide what is right for themselves and their relationship in this case?