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Would you take objection if your spouse wanted to keep photos of his/her late spouse on the parlour walls?

A young lady here in my village recently married a widower. He is 41, she is 24. They have been married 3 months now. He was married to his late wife 15 years before she passed. Everything has gone well in their relationship/marriage up until this point.

2 weeks ago, her mother decided to impose upon the newly married couple. The mother-in-law convinced the lady that if the man truly loves her, he would be able to move on and focus all of his attention on her. The wife asked her husband to take down the photos but he refused.

In response, the mother-in-law demanded the lady move back in with her and her husband until the man takes down the photos. The husband has filed a grievance demanding that if the wife doesn't return in 3 days, the family should return the bride price, which would dissolve the marriage.
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The bride doesn't seem very mature, herself. Did she marry mommy or her husband? Is she going to run to mommy every time there's a problem or is her mother going to butt in every time they have a problem? They need to get this straightened out right now! That mother needs to be put in her place. She has no business butting in their affairs.
@LadyGrace Ughhh I can relate to this, my wife and mother in law are the same but praise God it's improved.

You know what- I don't care if it's cultural- if you are an adult and you have to get mummy involved with your relationship or you spend more time with her than your spouse there's an issue- grow up!

And even when the wrong is admitted it doesn't just go away- you despise your mother in law and can't stand to see her (yes I know I shouldn't- but long story.)
@BritishFailedAesthetic I'm glad you said that about cultural circumstances. You are exactly right! Culture or not, this is just wrong. Good for you for recognizing this. I had the best mother-in-law in the world so I was very blessed with that. She never tried to interfere in our marriage but was just as loving and sweet and kind as she could be. She was even better to me than my own mother who might didn't really know because she was never a friend. This is the kind of bull that needs to stop between married couples. This is why the Bible said when we get married we cling to our partners and nobody is supposed to interfere with the married couples decisions I don't care who they are.