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Would you take objection if your spouse wanted to keep photos of his/her late spouse on the parlour walls?

A young lady here in my village recently married a widower. He is 41, she is 24. They have been married 3 months now. He was married to his late wife 15 years before she passed. Everything has gone well in their relationship/marriage up until this point.

2 weeks ago, her mother decided to impose upon the newly married couple. The mother-in-law convinced the lady that if the man truly loves her, he would be able to move on and focus all of his attention on her. The wife asked her husband to take down the photos but he refused.

In response, the mother-in-law demanded the lady move back in with her and her husband until the man takes down the photos. The husband has filed a grievance demanding that if the wife doesn't return in 3 days, the family should return the bride price, which would dissolve the marriage.
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BackyardShaman · 61-69, M
I would not object to the pictures, I’d be more concerned if he or she ignored their dead spouse’s existence. The man should divorce her immediately, she is heartless and self centered.
SheGotSkills · 18-21, F
@BackyardShaman Right, 15 years is a long time. Marrying again doesn't mean he has to erase all memories of his deceased wife. but it does seem like a grey area. I'm not sure how I would feel about him having the photos up. I certainly wouldn't leave him or make a big a deal about it.
fishescycle · 26-30
@SheGotSkills where did this happen and do you got a link to the story?
SheGotSkills · 18-21, F
@fishescycle It happened here in my village Osun State Nigeria . There's no link.
BackyardShaman · 61-69, M
@SheGotSkills I’m living with what that man lives with, next year it will be 10 years. My dead wife’s photo is on my refrigerator and my girlfriend now not only does not object but speaks with her occasionally and feels she is her guardian angel. This is the kind of person I respect and want in my life, not a self centered woman that lets her mother control her. The two ladies, my deceased wife and present girlfriend, never met each other.