I feel bad for some married dudes out there

@BlueVeins One on hand, makes me happy I'm not married. But on the other, seeing this stuff (and plenty more like it) reminds me that, if I ever do get married, that it's a two-way street and I can't expect an ATM.

@Magnolia21 Yes! And they end up hating women and thinking we’re all after them for something. You see it on here all the time.

The reality is they can absolutely stand up for themselves without being aggressive. BUT, I think men have been squashed into this tolerant, submissive to their wives, do the right thing crap out of fear.

When I got divorced it was assumed that I was gonna clean him out and not let him see his kid. They even made me take a class 😆 but we were extremely amicable and I wanted him to be well. He’s the father of my child, I don’t want to hurt him, that would hurt our kid. I know a lot of women though that want men to suffer. It’s weird.

I adore men, but I’ve never met a man that adored women. They always think there’s some other angle. It’s sad 😞

@AlchemyFox It's just like you've said. Men don't hate women without reason, and usually it's because one or more beat him down and caused that hate, that fear. I've met a few guys that should have been happily married, and now they won't even look twice in a woman's direction, nor will they date. Good on you for being amicable, most won't these days.

I swear, if someone is going out with a guy just to beat him down, stick to a frat bro type, leave the good dudes.

@Turtlepower No such thing as perfection. As long as the compromises aren't too drastic or one-sided, I'd say that's a good relationship.

@Magnolia21 Exactly. It's far more important to me that I connect with my partner intellectually and again have enough similar interests where we have a lot of other fun together anyways. Seeking perfection is usually how one ends up alone but agree with your point of within reason. It's certainly ok to have deal breakers.

@Longleggedlady Is a 40/60 split some sort of position?

@SW-User This