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Is there an acceptable waiting period after a breakup...?

Before you start imagining or having thoughts of seeing other people?
You see, my guy and I broke up in November and I have been very adamant that I am [i][b]not[/b][/i] interested in seeing anyone, or starting anything new.
I recognize that I need time to do some healing, and to figure myself out before I even [i]think[/i] of dating again.
I assumed this would take some time, perhaps even a year or two…
The thing is, yesterday while at work, a man came in whom I haven’t seen for a long time (he is a regular customer, but I have been away from work) and he made it clear he very happy to see me back. AND I GOT SOME BUTTERFLIES!!!!
We had fun chatting and flirting, and I enjoyed it!

Now, I find myself looking forward to the next time he comes in….and this surprises me….it really does.
I did not expect to have these kinds of thoughts for a LONG time yet….?
Doesn’t it seem too soon???
Uuuurrrggghhhh why do I have to be such a frikken [i]girl[/i]!????!
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hartfire Best Comment
I used to hear a common formula: a day for each week, a week for each month, a month for each year.
But I don't think it's that simple.

The key is not the amount of time but how well you've processed the loss of the last relationship.

Have you fully grieved your anger and sadness?
Have you fully accepted it?
What did you learn about yourself, your choices, your needs, your behaviours?
What needs to change?
Have you made or are you making those changes?
If not, what do you need to learn and do? How could you do it better?
In what ways could you become proactive?
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@hartfire you’re right, and these are all things I’m focusing on now….my question was really more about how [i]surprised[/i] I was at my own reaction to this guy’s flirting, not whether or not I should ‘act on it’. I truly don’t believe I’m ready for anything other than some feel-good flirting and innocent, harmless fun at work 😊 just to remind me that I’m still alive 😉
@ImpeccablyImperfect Thanks for the vote of best comment! 😊