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Is there an acceptable waiting period after a breakup...?

Before you start imagining or having thoughts of seeing other people?
You see, my guy and I broke up in November and I have been very adamant that I am [i][b]not[/b][/i] interested in seeing anyone, or starting anything new.
I recognize that I need time to do some healing, and to figure myself out before I even [i]think[/i] of dating again.
I assumed this would take some time, perhaps even a year or two…
The thing is, yesterday while at work, a man came in whom I haven’t seen for a long time (he is a regular customer, but I have been away from work) and he made it clear he very happy to see me back. AND I GOT SOME BUTTERFLIES!!!!
We had fun chatting and flirting, and I enjoyed it!

Now, I find myself looking forward to the next time he comes in….and this surprises me….it really does.
I did not expect to have these kinds of thoughts for a LONG time yet….?
Doesn’t it seem too soon???
Uuuurrrggghhhh why do I have to be such a frikken [i]girl[/i]!????!
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Ontheroad · M
There is an acceptable time... it's when you are ready.

The key is knowing when you are ready and not just rebounding, or feeling lonely, which happens to a great many of us.

I'd say enjoy the butterflies, enjoy how it feels but be very cautious... of yourself, especially of letting yourself go too soon.
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@Ontheroad yes, absolutely, I’m not jumping into ANYthing
Ontheroad · M
@ImpeccablyImperfect But, along the way, enjoy the butterflies! You are still young and beautiful and deserving of all the good feelings.