Help, I live in a sexless marriage!

My wife is catholic, quite a few months ago she was told by her church that we must live as brother and sister because her previous divorce of many years ago was not recognized by the catholic church! So she is taking this as law and will not allow me to make love to her or even touch or see her without clothes. I'm at my wits end with this, any help here?

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ScarletWitch · 26-30, F

First of all. Leave. This is a toxic marriage.

If you are forced to stay, then say YOU ARE NOT BROTHER AND SISTER. you are HUSBAND AND WIFE.

HER Faults are not your own. And you dont have to take this bullshit.

Fucking leave. Youre already at that age where you are at the end of your years and you are unhappy. Find a new church. This one is power tripping. And youre being very Naive to follow through with it.

Just leave. This will change her demeanor real quick when it comes to her being brainwashed.

ValkyrieRider · 56-60, M

@ScarletWitch its not my church, only hers, we still love each other!

ScarletWitch · 26-30, F

@ValkyrieRider sounds like you want an easy solution. When there isnt one. She is being programmed. And you are doing nothing but wanting. Its the hard truth. She is being gaslit into believing that you must be punished for her sins. And just because she goes to this one church doesnt mean you cant go to another church yourself and get a second opinion. But be smart about it. Keep searching on your own behalf if thats what it takes if you choose not to leave. Fight fire with fire. Again she is brainwashed and you need to unwire that if you want to save your marriage. Go to a different prist. Everyone is different. EVERYONE. Your marriage is valid. Don't let anyone tell you different.

ValkyrieRider · 56-60, M

@ScarletWitch I've talked to three priests, all the same message, its a catholic thing and we cannot get around it unless our ex's die or the original marriage is annulled. but since she cannot locate her ex to get annulled we are at a stalemate!

ScarletWitch · 26-30, F

@ValkyrieRider im Christian. Become a Christian. We have the same god. Same jesus. We have a reverand. Not a priest. Thats the only difference. We both still go to heaven. And we believe differently. Change your religion. Being catholic is no different than Christians. You just have the 1st testament rules.

Again your marriage is valid. Dont let anyone tell you differently.

ValkyrieRider · 56-60, M

@ScarletWitch I am not catholic, I attend a Baptist church and am a Christian. These are the rules of the catholic church, not mine, so I totally do not understand them!