Sexless marriage

Hi ive been married for 15 yrs. The last 2 of which i can count on one hand how many times we have done anything sexual. She says she just doesnt feel like it anymore. No matyer what i say or do try to start with a relaxing massage she just says thats enough. She said she just quit wanting it. She used to love sex more then i did. For yrs i could hardly keep up to her then it was like a switch qent off and she wants nothing to do with sex. I love her and she says she loves me ihas nothing to do with that but i need to feel some sort of sexual pleasure from someone. Im actually thinking of looking for someone that just wants a quick fling. I dont know what else to do im getting into a very depressed state more than anything ive told her how attra tive i f8nd her that shes sexy. It just doesnt help. I find myself watxching porn looking at pics and i know i need real phsyical contact more then anything. At this stage id even be happy to just chat with another women just to get some kind of conversation going. If anyone has any advice im desperately listening.

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CommandLine · 56-60, M

I was fine in my marriage, but I think I married to young. She is older than me anyway. We used to get on well and since a few other issues, we still do, but I had a few affairs at various stages. She found out about them and she couldn't let me go.
The last one was the worst for me. I ended up having another major breakdown and was very close to taking my own life. She stuck by me and I think I love her more now than I ever did in the past.
Sex is not always the issue. Although we never used to have it very regular when we got on, maybe once a month or maybe every two. I think that is why I strayed during those times.
Now sex is not really possible for her, the last time was not good. Physical problems prevent it.
I still want sex, but I cannot stand all the hassle now, so I will no longer look else where. A bit of sex talk with a lady never goes a miss, but having an affair is not on the agenda.
I think if you truly love someone, try and find another way to get satisfaction.
I expect some of my posts from a few years back would say something totally different, but I have changed.
She saved my life when I was at the lowest I have ever been. I was close to no longer living and it was very dark. I still get very dark days or weeks, but she keeps me going.
Don't throw it all away, because you cannot have sex the way you want it.
My outlook has changed.
If any of the above makes sense, I am glad, but to be honest I am not sure it does. I have had a long day and am so tired.
Whatever the outcome, good luck.