Sexless marriage

Hi ive been married for 15 yrs. The last 2 of which i can count on one hand how many times we have done anything sexual. She says she just doesnt feel like it anymore. No matyer what i say or do try to start with a relaxing massage she just says thats enough. She said she just quit wanting it. She used to love sex more then i did. For yrs i could hardly keep up to her then it was like a switch qent off and she wants nothing to do with sex. I love her and she says she loves me ihas nothing to do with that but i need to feel some sort of sexual pleasure from someone. Im actually thinking of looking for someone that just wants a quick fling. I dont know what else to do im getting into a very depressed state more than anything ive told her how attra tive i f8nd her that shes sexy. It just doesnt help. I find myself watxching porn looking at pics and i know i need real phsyical contact more then anything. At this stage id even be happy to just chat with another women just to get some kind of conversation going. If anyone has any advice im desperately listening.

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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

Has she gone to the doctor and have you tried couples counselling?

Funtimes25 · 46-50, M

@iamonfire696 Yes she has and done counselling as well i think its just her mind she just isnt open to anything or liatening to anyone. Im just literally craving pyshical contact in the worst way. Not having it for so long now is really starting to push me into a depression. I just want to be touched and to have someone to hold also.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Funtimes25 well if there’s no medical issue is she open to letting you have sex with another woman?

Funtimes25 · 46-50, M

@iamonfire696 she isnt at all. Says she loves me an i love her but i need more. Im so xlose to just not telling her and finding someone willing .

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Funtimes25 that’s certainly an option but are you ready to live the rest of your life having a friendship with your wife and a side piece?

Funtimes25 · 46-50, M

@iamonfire696 at this point in my life im willing to try anything.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Funtimes25 you only have one life so if you are happy living this way then you do what you gotta do.

Funtimes25 · 46-50, M

@iamonfire696 i am just running out of options. Just chatting on here about it makes me feel a bit better. Hopefully i can find someone that pulls me out of this

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Funtimes25 this is an unpopular opinion but I think it’s pretty shitty when a spouse decides they don’t want sex anymore and isn’t willing to try or let their partner find that somewhere else.

Funtimes25 · 46-50, M

@iamonfire696 i 100% agree with you. You sound like a pretty openminded person or atleast you think ratioanlly. Thanks for making me feel human.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Funtimes25 you are welcome. I understand this so much so you certainly are not alone.

Funtimes25 · 46-50, M

@iamonfire696 thank you it does help knowing you feel that way.

Mktonght · 61-69, M

Your comment that you just want contact? I did not hear you say that she did not like or want just a hug or non-sexual contact? Seems to me if you quit pushing the "sex" issue and just be comforting and not strive for more then just snuggling it might be a good place to start. @Funtimes25

Funtimes25 · 46-50, M

@Mktonght i never push it i dont ask daily or even weekly. I do hug her im not a sex fiend i just want more from my relationship. There is more to a relationship. Your comment is what makes me second guess myself and rethink that i should be just happy an settle.