I need some advice
Me and my partner are constanrly arguing and i seem to be getting the blame for every thing its making me feel like a bad person what can i do cause everything i do is wrong
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PaisleyHeart · F
@PaisleyHeart I agree with this approach.
helenoftroy2000 · 22-25, F
@PaisleyHeart why should they havwe to do that...they get all the blAME AND NOW HAVE TO SAY SORRY
PaisleyHeart · F
@helenoftroy2000 Hi😊, I am not suggesting any apologies happen from anyone at this point. Simply work on communicating with each other.
Seems fundamental but we sometimes have to dig deep within FIRST to be able to identify what it is that we actually want and THEN put it into words to share with another.
Seems fundamental but we sometimes have to dig deep within FIRST to be able to identify what it is that we actually want and THEN put it into words to share with another.
helenoftroy2000 · 22-25, F
@PaisleyHeart It is far too late for that, as it is probably an ingrained habit of blaming the other person for everything...maybe once a day you have some intervention....it is too late...move on and get a new partner or life will be like this.
PaisleyHeart · F
@helenoftroy2000 I disagree. It is not that simple. At least it isn’t that cut and dry for everyone and especially if they prefer to remain together for whatever reasons they have.
Most of the time staying together IS A CHOICE.
(I am not talking about the obvious reasons to split such as mental and physical abuse or anything falls into dangerous categories.)
Choosing to remain a couple, a team, partners—is made using our hearts, minds, experiences and life’s practicality.
Where ppl are in their lives both mentally, physically and age too, makes a difference.
My parents divorced when I was 11.
After 25 years of marriage.
The reasons were complex. But all reasons were health rooted with both of them. If they had access to the proper healthcare I believe (as do my siblings) things could have been different.
My point again—-it’s not that simple.
Most of the time staying together IS A CHOICE.
(I am not talking about the obvious reasons to split such as mental and physical abuse or anything falls into dangerous categories.)
Choosing to remain a couple, a team, partners—is made using our hearts, minds, experiences and life’s practicality.
Where ppl are in their lives both mentally, physically and age too, makes a difference.
My parents divorced when I was 11.
After 25 years of marriage.
The reasons were complex. But all reasons were health rooted with both of them. If they had access to the proper healthcare I believe (as do my siblings) things could have been different.
My point again—-it’s not that simple.