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Interracial relationship... Do you need to discuss potential racial issues that may come up?

I'm a black carribean woman dating a mixed race (white English/ black Caribbean man). This following weekend he met my sisters friends for the first time at a birthday party. Anyways one of my sisters closest friends came and spoke to us ;very shortly into the conversation after I mentioned my partner cooking dinner on new years day for me and his family. She asked him what cuisine it was. Now I understood what she was trying to figure out. But I couldn't possibly understand why, since we are all black.

Anyways he handled it well and I didn't say anything.

Later on that night I mentioned it to my mum. And she was just as annoyed as I was.

I asked my boyfriend if he noticed to which he said yes and he said it didn't bother him.

But it bothers me. I have fallen out with people due to this type of behaviour, and at one stage I even had a mixed race friend tell me that dating anything other than black was not good!

I'm not trying to stirr trouble here with us, infact I have his back, but I feel like he kinda tries to just brush things under the rug.

No ones saying he's got to be aggressive but I feel like maybe, I'm finding it more insulting because I don't see why people can't be happy that we're happy...
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Adogslife · 61-69, M
All I took from that is that black people are just as racist as white people. The racial mix really doesn’t matter.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Adogslife of course they are. Sad thing is he's half black. So I don't understand the need to probe? Or is it because he's not really black. Something I've been told most my life. Wtf does that even mean?
Adogslife · 61-69, M
@Mellowgirl He’s really black. Black is a dominant gene. Perhaps, “not really black” means lighter skinned than your relatives. I don’t really know.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Adogslife people say to me I'm not really black. Apparently due to the way I speak, act and dress! I've also been told I can't possibly be full black due to the way I look. I find it highly insulting and incredibly ignorant especially as black people come in all shapes colours and sizes.
He is as black as any other light or mixed black person.
I think people just try to find something wrong with others to make themselves feel superior in some way.
As lovely as my sisters friend is I didn't expect that from her at all.
I mean she's my half sister and she was raised by a white man as our dad, and her mum split up, she has mixed brothers. So they know this dynamic well given how long they've been in her life it's ridiculous.

No family is perfect and no single person can say they don't know of mixed or blended households.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
@Mellowgirl that was such a great answer. 🙏🏻❤️