Interracial relationship... Do you need to discuss potential racial issues that may come up?

@DarkHeaven I wonder sometimes if people forget just how hard it is to find love?

@Mellowgirl it’s crazy because her own family dislikes her because she’s gay and mixed (not fully black like them.) Her family that she knows on her Mum’s side are all black and her Mum is half white and half black… they barely accept her and then her Da was half Native American Cherokee and white, so she’s only a quarter black. And of course I’m so fair skinned I’m practically neon, so I’m the devil. It’s just so strange to me because she get all the same hate from racists but yet her own family don’t completely accept her as if her being born not fully black is somehow being a traitor to them. I just don’t get it but it doesn’t matter. She’s the woman of my dreams and made me the happiest girl on the planet when she became my wife.

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@Mellowgirl and it is hard. to heck with them. you just keep loving your man and they’ll have to get over themselves. light and love, sweetie.

@DarkHeaven im sorry to hear that this is the upbringing she had to endure.
I don't want to discredit what's gone on but I would be curious to know are mum and dad still together? Did mum and dad have a troubled relationship? Are they really successful or doing mediocre?
Sometimes there are negatives that come from mixed relationships that make either sides more hateful because they believe had they met someone in their respective race they would have done better. But actually they forget the most important part were human beings. And people connect beyond race.
There can sometimes be jealousys that arise due to perceived benefit of being mixed however they want to define that... Outside more accepted, long hair, finer features. That type of thing. Again not that child's fault it's societies.

I fear that we have made such a mess on a social level that we forget the basic needs of every human being, food, shelter and live.

Initially when we started dating things were really difficult I think due to the pandemic and him having long covid he was quite insular and anxious about a lot of things. Which made he guarded and closed minded but after a few serious chats he's come full circle and become everything I needed and more. I won't say it's a dream because relationships take work but so far we've made more progress than I've made with any other guy in the past. And it's only been 7 months. I suppose this is why I'm so annoyed I don't want anyone to try and mess things up.

@DarkHeaven jokes sometimes said right can be funny.

Hey I love a good racist joke but again it depends on intention and delivery.

But we live in a very pc world and where everyone films things to put on the Internet, it's too risky you'll probably get cancelled.

I on a day to day basis can say I don't have racist thoughts or comments but when you say something like:

" A Somali woman ran away from my dog, so he chased her!"

Is she actually Somali?

Would it have been better to just say Muslim or woman?

Am I making an assumption because she's wearing a headscarf?

Someone hearing this might even think I'm being racist/disrespectful /judgemental/lacking empathy.

This did happen BTW.

But I have been known to say:

"I don't understand why Muslims always run away from dogs, the moment you do that the dog gets excited!"

Was I wrong to even think this then say it out loud?

We have to think way too much to be able to clearly communicate these days.

I think and I'm taking this advice for myself too, as long as you're happy and you're working together to make your relationship stronger that's all that matters.
Others will always have their comments you just have to decide how best to deal with it together.
Whether it's ignoring it, educating, or just removing said person from your life.

Best wishes to you both.

@Mellowgirl amen. 🖤🙏 and you both as well. Light and love.