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Interracial relationship... Do you need to discuss potential racial issues that may come up?

I'm a black carribean woman dating a mixed race (white English/ black Caribbean man). This following weekend he met my sisters friends for the first time at a birthday party. Anyways one of my sisters closest friends came and spoke to us ;very shortly into the conversation after I mentioned my partner cooking dinner on new years day for me and his family. She asked him what cuisine it was. Now I understood what she was trying to figure out. But I couldn't possibly understand why, since we are all black.

Anyways he handled it well and I didn't say anything.

Later on that night I mentioned it to my mum. And she was just as annoyed as I was.

I asked my boyfriend if he noticed to which he said yes and he said it didn't bother him.

But it bothers me. I have fallen out with people due to this type of behaviour, and at one stage I even had a mixed race friend tell me that dating anything other than black was not good!

I'm not trying to stirr trouble here with us, infact I have his back, but I feel like he kinda tries to just brush things under the rug.

No ones saying he's got to be aggressive but I feel like maybe, I'm finding it more insulting because I don't see why people can't be happy that we're happy...
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iamnikki · 31-35, F
I may be missing it..
From what I understand, boyfriend was asked "what cuisine he cooked" and you view it as an annoying question.
You said he was biracial, so that could have been two different cuisines he cooked, or even something completely different, like Japanese...

Would you have preferred them asking "what did you cook"?
To me that the same thing
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@iamnikki for you reading what is said seems simple because it's text.
I missed that he said he cooked a Sunday roast. As we are British most people know what that is.
Her question was specific to gain and understanding as to why following my comment about not liking spice/heat while he does.