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Interracial relationship... Do you need to discuss potential racial issues that may come up?

I'm a black carribean woman dating a mixed race (white English/ black Caribbean man). This following weekend he met my sisters friends for the first time at a birthday party. Anyways one of my sisters closest friends came and spoke to us ;very shortly into the conversation after I mentioned my partner cooking dinner on new years day for me and his family. She asked him what cuisine it was. Now I understood what she was trying to figure out. But I couldn't possibly understand why, since we are all black.

Anyways he handled it well and I didn't say anything.

Later on that night I mentioned it to my mum. And she was just as annoyed as I was.

I asked my boyfriend if he noticed to which he said yes and he said it didn't bother him.

But it bothers me. I have fallen out with people due to this type of behaviour, and at one stage I even had a mixed race friend tell me that dating anything other than black was not good!

I'm not trying to stirr trouble here with us, infact I have his back, but I feel like he kinda tries to just brush things under the rug.

No ones saying he's got to be aggressive but I feel like maybe, I'm finding it more insulting because I don't see why people can't be happy that we're happy...
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Camelia · F
As a mixed-race woman myself, I am confused about this part. “And at one stage, I even had a mixed-race friend tell me that dating anything other than black was not good.” So is your mixed-race friend saying that her black parent shouldn't have dated her non-black parent?
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Camelia precisely why we fell out!
I found it very difficult to have a 'friend' try and justify the behaviour of men she thought was good for me, that were clearly taking the piss out of me, over men that treated me with respect, simply because they were the wrong shade.

I'm not sure what was going on there, but it was uncomfortable to say the least.
Camelia · F
@Mellowgirl Indeed, she has a very strange mindset. Thank goodness you've moved on from her negative energy.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Camelia I have very few but very good friends because people revealed who they were to me.
As you said negative energy but also one that was becoming increasingly controlling...