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I never met the right person.
I settled for my best friend, and that turned out to be mostly a good thing,
though it has included some disasters and extremely hard work.
But if I could start over I'd have gone about finding a life-partner in a totally different way: I'd have been proactive.
It's one of the most significant choices of one's life - at least as important as education, career and where we live -
so it's idiotic to just wait for someone to come along.
If you're not in the right place at the right time to give yourself the best opportunities to meet many of the right sort, you have almost no chance of meeting him.
The other factor is working on oneself to become the best partner one can be. That means healing the unconscious issues.
I settled for my best friend, and that turned out to be mostly a good thing,
though it has included some disasters and extremely hard work.
But if I could start over I'd have gone about finding a life-partner in a totally different way: I'd have been proactive.
It's one of the most significant choices of one's life - at least as important as education, career and where we live -
so it's idiotic to just wait for someone to come along.
If you're not in the right place at the right time to give yourself the best opportunities to meet many of the right sort, you have almost no chance of meeting him.
The other factor is working on oneself to become the best partner one can be. That means healing the unconscious issues.