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A question for the older men, a hypothetical scenario…

(Women can certainly answer too, but it might be a bit trickier)

Suppose you received a message from reliable sources advising you that you have a child you didn’t know about, from someone you briefly dated. The circumstances are thus:

The child is an adult, and successful. They need nothing from you.

Your child is not angry at you, he/she knows that the mother never told you about their birth.

All the person wants, if you’re agréable, is to meet you, maybe for coffee.

So, based upon this premise, three questions:

1) Would you be willing to meet this child ?

2) If you hit it off, would you be open to an ongoing relationship ?

3) Would the existence of this child, even under these circumstances, complicate your life or cause problems ?
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Ontheroad · M
1. Absolutely yes.

2. Absolutely yes.

3. It would enrich my life and my children would be thrilled to have a new family member... so no complications.
@Ontheroad Wow, that’s amazing. I hope you locate them. Ancestry.com has been responsible for a lot of people finding relatives, even siblings and children they’d never met.
Ontheroad · M
@bijouxbroussard I tried and tried, but finally had to give up. The real problem is that she (the ex-girlfriend), moved home to another country and there is no way to track her there.

I still think of my lost forever child from time to time... it's one of my few real regrets in life.