QUESTION AS A GIRLFRIEND

@assemblingaknob They are harsh. I feel for you. It's what happens when anonymous people meet, think they are helping (only from their personal experience, or even worse, without any)... I'll mark your words as good advice.

@assemblingaknob i know right! I'm asking on how to deal with it. I'm not going to abandon him

@assemblingaknob Regular reassurance, I always give him that. But how about this, when he acts up like he is already screaming, saying harsh words to me, and everything I say to make him feel calm and I also apologizes to him... he doesn't listen to me. He even hurts himself. What can I do to help with with that? I'm so afraid if one day he can hurt me physically

@LetMeGo you can take him to dbt. The good thing is, it has a good success rate. You should always involve emergency services if you think he's going to harm himself, and call the cops if you think he can harm you. Create boundaries. Also Ask him to follow instagram pages that help understand borderline in a compassionate way, so that he doesn't feel offended or alienated.
But if you think he is harming your safety, or can, then start distancing yourself.

@LetMeGo you can also tell him that you will cooperate only if he shows you that he's improving himself.

@assemblingaknob some bery harsh comments indeed. It blows my mind how cruel people really are. No empthay at all.