QUESTION AS A GIRLFRIEND
How to deal a boyfriend with Borderline Personality Disorder?
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Doomflower · 36-40, M
If he is displaying symptoms and isn't medicated and actively engaged in therapy then run.
Untreated BPD can literally be dangerous. Treated BPD can be dangerous. Having BPD is like living without skin in terms of emotional pain and people tend to behave accordingly.
If he is being treated and you choose to stay make sure you have clear and consistent boundaries. If you say you will or will not do something, stick to your word. A borderline is afraid of abandonment and has an unstable sense of self. You must communicate through words and actions that you will not abandon them and that you hold them in unconditional positive regard. That means even if he acts out you still communicate your caring about him while not approving the behavior.
Untreated BPD can literally be dangerous. Treated BPD can be dangerous. Having BPD is like living without skin in terms of emotional pain and people tend to behave accordingly.
If he is being treated and you choose to stay make sure you have clear and consistent boundaries. If you say you will or will not do something, stick to your word. A borderline is afraid of abandonment and has an unstable sense of self. You must communicate through words and actions that you will not abandon them and that you hold them in unconditional positive regard. That means even if he acts out you still communicate your caring about him while not approving the behavior.
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