Well I'm sure not many here have their partner in prison but I'm curious if you have or did would you fight for physical contact with that person? I will say having someone in lockup while in a relationship is fucking hard. I just want him home to cuddle him, love on him, enjoy him. If I didn't love this man I wouldn't put up with it honestly. I am able to see him 4 times a month but in a way it's a bit of a tease, We definitely stretch the limits touch each other as much as we can wink 😉😜. Shit so him and I were talking about signing a petition for conjugal visits. Only 5 states in the us allow conjugal visits. So annoying honestly. To have even an hour to enjoy him would be amazing. So who would sign a petition to have physical contact with the person you love?
If my partner got himself in prison he'd be on his own because I would cut ties with him on everything especially if we weren't married, if we were married I would ask him for a divorce, I never understood why women stay with their partner after he's sent to prison and worse why marry them while they're in prison, keep in mind that my point of view is with someone that has no criminal history.
@Anielka everyone is open to their own opinion. Like i said if I didn't love him as much as I do I'd just move on. It's so fucking hard and don't suggest it for anyone honestly
If I had a permanent partner and he were in prison I'd do anything for him, and I'd wait for him to come back to me no matter how long it would take. I'd wait patiently.
I had sex with a guys wife while he was in prison. His wife told me that she had let him listen to us a few times and then she would just answer his calls when we were doing it after that. We all enjoyed it so why not! I dated her for months!
I wouldn't do that to her or put her thru the hardship, if we were married I would sign a divorce and let her move on, I got myself into prison so it's on me.
It depends as to why they are in prison for...if they've committed a demented crime, I might very well want to get divorced and move out of state. But, if it was a misunderstand over momentary stupidity, sure I could still stay in the relationship.
Can't imagine situation in which this relationship survives her getting herself in prison. Think that would fall into the "last straw" kinda thing for me.
Just the mention of this topic suggests that our prison, incarceration and justice systems are designed to instill more hatred, resentment and anti-social in those who are confined.
So, what will be one of the main deterrents then, for the person being in prison - taking away they're Liberty/Liberties is the reason they're in prison ... if conjugal rights etc etc are given, they'll take the attitude
"I'm get'n everything i had in society, but i don't pay for my living expenses, i may as well stay a criminal for life"