I Went Through A Break Up That Changed My Life [Painful Breakups]

It’s been six months since my fiancé sat me down and decided he was going to move out. I didn’t know how unhappy he was. I gave him the ring back. We tried again but it didn’t work. I did therapy, tried dating ect. I am still so lonely. Still missing what could have been. Night times are the worst. I have tried many things: therapy, exercise, being with friends ect bur nothing lasts. When I am alone and not busy, I cry. I don’t force myself. It just happens. I’m 28, have a great job, am a college student and have supportive friends and family. So why am I still broken? He said he wasn’t happy for over a year. And I honestly true to god had no idea. I did everything. I quit smoking, didn’t drink (he didn’t like it), cooked, cleaned, looked after him. He was my king. But he fell out of love. Why isn’t time healing my pain? Can anybody shed some light on how long this pain lasts?

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Tatsumi · 31-35, M

Forever, probably, if it was any good. But it gets less and less as time goes on. It just takes a lot of time. 6 months isn't enough. More like 2 years. Though, women tend to get over such things faster.

In the meantime, there are other ways to assuage pain. And someone else might be able to help you heal a bit faster. Only another person can heal wounds of the heart, maybe.

twentysomething8 · 31-35, F

I am a woman and I don’t get over things faster- ever. I feel like men do. Guess irs up to the individual really.@Tatsumi

Tatsumi · 31-35, M

@twentysomething8 It does depend on the individual, but there's still a general theme. Trust me, men take it harder. But I meant being broken up with by someone they loved. Not breaking up with someone they didn't love.

But, probably off topic.

You'll be okay. Even if it doesn't feel like it, right now.