I Went Through A Break Up That Changed My Life [Painful Breakups]

It’s been six months since my fiancé sat me down and decided he was going to move out. I didn’t know how unhappy he was. I gave him the ring back. We tried again but it didn’t work. I did therapy, tried dating ect. I am still so lonely. Still missing what could have been. Night times are the worst. I have tried many things: therapy, exercise, being with friends ect bur nothing lasts. When I am alone and not busy, I cry. I don’t force myself. It just happens. I’m 28, have a great job, am a college student and have supportive friends and family. So why am I still broken? He said he wasn’t happy for over a year. And I honestly true to god had no idea. I did everything. I quit smoking, didn’t drink (he didn’t like it), cooked, cleaned, looked after him. He was my king. But he fell out of love. Why isn’t time healing my pain? Can anybody shed some light on how long this pain lasts?

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wintersecret · 41-45, M

in the voyage of the love, u left ur own self somewhere behind..

find urself and u will be happier like u were earlier ( before love life).

twentysomething8 · 31-35, F

@wintersecret all my friends and even therapist said I let who I reallt was... disappear. But who I reallt am is also not desired by men. I can’t find an inberween.

JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F

@twentysomething8 it is desired...but we place our worth in their hands and our worth needs to be in our hands. Regardless is they want us or not.

twentysomething8 · 31-35, F

@JaggedLittlePill how does one “love themselves”? I’ve never understood this concept

JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F

@twentysomething8 I have no idea sweetie...I wish i was good at it. I know it is true ..I know i need to somehow get to that place also...I am still working on how to get there.

I understand exactly.how you feel. I too am dealing with something similar and some days I just want to give up on myself.

wintersecret · 41-45, M

@JaggedLittlePill @twentysomething8 Jagged has a point. I agree on it.

If u arent u.. then u are nothing...

wintersecret · 41-45, M

@twentysomething8 Love Ownself is a word dear which people use to express the self.

its not easy to explain but just like u love ur Man and followed what he liked and did what he liked.

Now, you need to follow what u liked for urself, do what u wish to do for ownself. and u will start loving urself.