I never had any idea that the term 'showing up as a wife' or 'showing up as a husband' actually had a multi-level meaning
In relationships, "showing up as a wife" or "showing up as a husband" doesn't just mean the physical presence (which is what as a neuro-spicy introverted person it looks to me to be in a stand-alone sense).
Once you get married, you are automatically meant to 'show up' physically. 8-)
I've never been married, or engaged so 'showing up' never has had a pair-bonding linked meaning to me.
Allegedly the second-level meaning is about being actively, emotionally, *and* physically present for your partner. Apparently it goes beyond the legal title to embody consistent support, loyalty, and partnership. This involves proactive care, emotional availability, and effective teamwork in your marriage.
This is the big part that the religious perspectives of marriage forget to include in my understanding of what intimate adult human relationships are about.
Is this something you automatically 'know' or another one of those mysterious things about relationships everyone presumes you know by default but never really do esp if you've never seen it demonstrated by your parents, other couples you know, etc.?
Once you get married, you are automatically meant to 'show up' physically. 8-)
I've never been married, or engaged so 'showing up' never has had a pair-bonding linked meaning to me.
Allegedly the second-level meaning is about being actively, emotionally, *and* physically present for your partner. Apparently it goes beyond the legal title to embody consistent support, loyalty, and partnership. This involves proactive care, emotional availability, and effective teamwork in your marriage.
This is the big part that the religious perspectives of marriage forget to include in my understanding of what intimate adult human relationships are about.
Is this something you automatically 'know' or another one of those mysterious things about relationships everyone presumes you know by default but never really do esp if you've never seen it demonstrated by your parents, other couples you know, etc.?
