Why is it the nastiest and b*tchiest women seem to all be married while i can't find a soul willing to buy me dinner? Come on this is some bs

That's the trick, you can't appear to be too strong of a woman from the start. You have to play the part of the fragile flower that needs protecting.
First you're alluring and then let him think asking you out is all his idea. Then once you get him to marry you, then you can run his life.