What's the longest you have been mad at someone and for what reason? Days months years?
Do you ever get mad at yourself over a crush?
I have this ridiculous crush that I can't get out of my head. And it's on someone who I know damn well will likely never ever look at me in a romantic light. So I get mad at myself. Or I get mad at him because he's so pleasant and funny all the time; why can't he be rude to me so I can ignore these feelings easier?
Any of you ladies ever feel the same or have similar experiences with crushes? Have you ever been shocked by your own anger and what happened? The realization that I've wasted so much time and let so many people walk all over keeps on making me feel angry towards myself. How do you overcome these negative feelings when you're restarting your self improvement journey? Have you ever been the crazy controlling/manipulative one in a relationship?
What extents of crazy did you go to, and how, if at all, did you stop being like that? Have you ever been so upset about something it's made you physically sick?
Over the past week, I was convinced I had the stomach flu. But as time went on, it occurred to me that my symptoms were correlated to a specific event, which was the mention of my boyfriends Ex. I've never been the jealous type (at least not consciously), but this has gotten pretty ridiculous.
So I ask this. Have any of you ever had this happen to you? If so, what was the cause and how'd you get over it? Have you ever had an experience with a friend getting tilted at a game and what was your reaction ?
I generally am the person that gets mad at the game and talks a lot about how much it sucks, i never do that to people that dont know me or i never lash out to anyone specifically, mostly its stuff like "I hate this game" or "Why are we still playing this piece of shit" or "I hate that Symmetra (never actually telling the Symmetra i hate her though)" I geniunely dont realize that im doing it, and offer to mute myself the whole game if people dont want it. But my friends generally say "dont mute" or "its fun to listen to you get mad" and im not sure that they are having any fun and i feel like if they ever get angry at the game too that i was the problem.
It might be the fact that i dont like watching Youtubers or Streamers that have angry reactions to videogames while some of my friends do, or it might be that i know how it feels to get so frustrated about something unimportant so i dont like watching those kinds of content. Anyways what i wanted to discuss with everyone about was, do you get more tilted/frustrated with a friend on discord yelling at the game, or does it actually help you calm down more, or do you not even care about it since they're not talking about you.
What is your general reaction towards someone other than you being tilted ?
What do you consider as toxicty, being mean to other people or being tilted in general ? I don't mean like violent and shit. I'm finally getting over my ex, but for months I was really emotionally unstable, wishing to be taken back and then saying nasty things I now regret. All I can do now is think about what went wrong and how I can improve in the future.
Have you ever been surprised to "outgrow" certain artists, or dislike songs you used to love? How have your musical tastes changed with age?
But I'd like to know I'm not alone in regretting my post-breakup behavior. Have you ever been that person? What did you learn?
Have you ever caused someone to rage quit?
How did it happen and how did it make you feel?
My commander at the time was [[Doran, the siege tower]], and my opponent was playing black-green. I cast [[Illumination]] to counter a [[Sylvan Library]]. My opponent called me a "counterf*g", scooped his cards and left the shop completely.
I felt extremely confused because he had a fantastic board, and mildly delighted because I had never dreamed that Illumination would ever be a card to draw that much ire. What's the ugliest part of your body? At what age did you meet the love of your life? And how’s your relationship going? How did you meet your significant other? Let's be honest - is getting back together really a thing or just wishful thinking of this sub?
I realise while reading through this sub that "getting back together" is something that is mentioned in almost every single thread. Of course mostly heartbroken people visit this sub, so most of the people here naturally have this wishful thinking of getting back together with their exes. People who have just broken up lurk around here while people who finally healed and move on to meet new people stop contributing.
So when I look at the "real world", I have 4 friends that are going through a breakup right now and none of them have even been thinking about eventually getting back with their ex. When I think about past break ups of people close to me, I also rarely hear about any of them eventually and seriously get back together again (not talking about little flings that happen again) - maybe 15% out of all couples. And even less actually stay together for longer than half a year after that. Those are usually couples that broke up really young because of differing life plans and not something that had anything to do with their relationship itself.
Maybe its just my perception but getting back together is a theme that is super prevalent in this sub full of heartbroken people, and its rather a wishful thinking than a reflection of what is the reality. So guys, please be honest and think about all the people you know, all the breakups you heard about: Is getting back together really a thing? Does that ever work? To me, its only in this sub, in reality its a no for me. How many of you have gotten back together with a SO years after the relationship ended? I'm recently going through a breakup 3 weeks ago, and it ended on good terms; we both cried and talked for several hours, arranged some of her stuff, hugged and went on our way (We were living together, and most her stuff is still in our apartment). Reasoning is a lot started happening, and she started to doubt her feelings, mutually agreed it wasn't fair if she couldn't reciprocate and see what the future holds. Minimal contact since, but It's been a week now with No Contact for our own space and time.
Thanks for taking the time to read my story. I am in need of advice regarding my situation. I am 25/M and she is 22/F. She broke up with me a couple weeks ago. She suggested we take a break to figure things out but I never liked the idea of a break so I told her that if she wants to do this we would have to break up and see where it takes us or stay together and deal with it. I feel like breaks are the easy way to put down someone leaving them with a bit of hope to get back together in the future. With that said, her life has been stressful lately... issues ranging from afraid to graduate from college and get a job to being totally broke and working at a part time job, stopping by a bit of family issues. Pretty much afraid of growing up. I understand all that and support her through it. This girl is my best friend and I am her shoulder to cry on. I am the relationship type, old-fashioned, a gentleman and a scholar. I treat my girl like a princess and give her all the love she deserves while she is more of the independent type that needs her time alone from time to time with no contact. The reasons she gave me to justify our break-up is that she felt she can't get her life on track with me in the picture because I make her so happy she can't focus on this, this, and that. She also said there were a few things she wanted to do before being with someone (personal goals, not hooking up with other guys). She's working a part-time job and going to school. I understand she is busy but if you love someone, you make time for them. Don't you? Now during those painful long talks at the verge of breaking up, we made each other a few promises. She promised me she wouldn't hook up with anybody(her mind is elsewhere, focused on her future anyway) and that I would be her "next" boyfriend as soon as she feels her life is back on track and she's ready to date again(this could take 6 months up to 2-3 years). I believe her when she says these things because I know the person she is and trust her 100%. If she was to hook up with someone and I found out, I wouldn't take her back even though we are not together and she's free to do whatever she wants. A promise is a promise, it's a respect thing. I've asked her a few times, "How can you break up with someone you love so much and makes you so happy?" to which she replies, I just can't be with you right now. I thought couples in love were supposed to work issues out since love is "invincible" or is that only in books? She told me there were good chances we would get back together when she finds a good job and becomes stable. That's nice to hear but I can't help to think she tells me these thinks to make it easier on me. I would like to clarify I am not the possessive type. She was free to do whatever she wanted whenever she wanted. I never said no to anything she had planned with her friends. She's been going out more lately with a few of her friends which leads me to believe she felt "married" when we were together and she's enjoying being single again. We don't talk much anymore. I told her I wanted to stay close friends with her;no way I can get back with her if we drift away from each other. I would rather have her in my life than not at all. I don't want to lose her as a friend. Obviously, this makes the healing process a lot harder. We occasionally chit-chat for 5min online asking how each other's day was, and we leave it at that. She's also been texting me once daily for the past week to say hi and ask how I was doing. It's nice to see she cares about me. However I am heartbroken and I am trying to keep myself busy to cope with this. This is my second break-up, but feels worse than my first one (previous ex cheated). I am starting to feel depressed regardless of being a pretty strong person that I usually am. Not everything is pink in my life either, I have other issues to deal with on top of this. We hung out recently just as "friends" per my request. It was not awkward and I made an effort to show her I am doing "ok" and getting my life together. It was a mistake. Not being able to kiss the person you are in love with because "she said so" is the worst feeling in the world. Definitely torture and I don't think I can do it again. One of the main reason for the break-up is that she would not have time for us anymore. it's getting hard to believe since she's been going out quite a bit until ridiculous hours of the night and she hangs out with friends during the day here and there when she's off school and work. I don't understand why we cannot be together and hang out here and there like she's doing with her friends. Like stated earlier, it's hard to accept the reasons why we are not together anymore. Although they are valid, I feel like there is something else I am not being told. I am mature about it and I understand it's stressful in one's life to deal with growing up but it is hard to accept that if you are in love with someone, you can turn off any feelings you have for this person, "the love of your life", to pursue other things. In my opinion, the love we had/have for each other doesn't come often and is worth pursuing. I know quite a few people that would die for something her and I have/had. I feel like she really just wanted to be independent, single and not have to check in with her boyfriend.
Going by the way she acts and talks, I feel like it's been easier on her since it was her decision and that really breaks my heart. Although I might be wrong about all this, she might cry herself to sleep for all I know, but I doubt it. I feel like she's already over it. I must add we lived together for a while during our relationship and we had our ups and downs like everyone. We saw each other every day and woke up next to each other for the most part of our relationship. It's been really tough on me. My family loves her and her family loves me. So I turn to you the internet, I need other views on this. Preferably from females. I have hope that we end up together in the future and I won't let her go, for a WHILE at least. Now my question is.... Do you think there is hope and she's really that type of person that needs to be alone to figure it out or she gave me valid excuses to make it easier on me while it's really because she wants to be single and not have to worry about someone in her life?
Am I being stupid waiting for her? I've been going out myself with a few friends just to get out and get my mind off things;I have no interest hooking up with anybody or even look at other females. She said she sees us together down the road because we are perfect for each other and that she wished she woke up one morning so we could be together and happy forever. I am confused. Sorry for any grammar mistakes or overall order of things. I really dont have my head to myself right now. I am trying to keep myself busy with work and other things, but it's hard to focus with her on the back of my head 24/7.
I do deeply care for this girl, I'm 23 and she's 22. We have both grown a lot and both have a fair emotional maturity. She did say she wanted to try if her feelings became clearer or returned.
Has anyone ever successfully gotten back together with an ex?
If so, why did you break up in the first place? How long did the relationship last the following time?
Anyway, I'm wanting to know if anyone else has successful stories of getting back together with an ex? What happened and what made you want to? Who broke up with who? I've [F/23] recently gotten back together with an ex [M/26] after breaking up with him after a year of dating. We still love each and want to try it out again. I know there will be a difficult process of healing and learning to trust each other again, but I'm worried things will never go back to the way things were before the break up. How many of you have gotten back together with an ex after a breakup? Did it go well? Did you end up breaking up again?
Can you get back together with an ex and make things work? Obviously every relationship is unique however - for me, personally, I have always been stuck between: couples do it just because they can't find anyone else OR they realize their breakup could have been avoided/was for a foolish reason. What do y'all think? Does getting back together ever actually work out or should relationships be left in the past? I'm grasping at straws at this point considering I'm currently blocked with barely any contact, but the small hope that she might take me back is about all I have keeping me going.
Have you ever gotten back together with an ex?
Why did you do it and how did it turn out? Does getting back together with a past gf/bf ever work out?
I (22M) broke up with my gf(22f) a month ago and we have no talked at all yet. I have been wanting to talk, but I knew that I had clear my head before talking. Part of me is still considering bringing up getting back together. I have no idea what her thoughts are because we haven't spoken in a month, but I am just wondering if it has ever worked out for anyone? Have you ever broken up with a SO only to get back together years later?
It seems that most people reconcile within a few weeks, but I'm wondering if anyone has any "success stories" of getting back together after a much longer period of time, such as 6 months or even over a year or two. If so, did you stay in contact during that time? Did you date other people, or did your ex date other people?
I have this ridiculous crush that I can't get out of my head. And it's on someone who I know damn well will likely never ever look at me in a romantic light. So I get mad at myself. Or I get mad at him because he's so pleasant and funny all the time; why can't he be rude to me so I can ignore these feelings easier?
Any of you ladies ever feel the same or have similar experiences with crushes? Have you ever been shocked by your own anger and what happened? The realization that I've wasted so much time and let so many people walk all over keeps on making me feel angry towards myself. How do you overcome these negative feelings when you're restarting your self improvement journey? Have you ever been the crazy controlling/manipulative one in a relationship?
What extents of crazy did you go to, and how, if at all, did you stop being like that? Have you ever been so upset about something it's made you physically sick?
Over the past week, I was convinced I had the stomach flu. But as time went on, it occurred to me that my symptoms were correlated to a specific event, which was the mention of my boyfriends Ex. I've never been the jealous type (at least not consciously), but this has gotten pretty ridiculous.
So I ask this. Have any of you ever had this happen to you? If so, what was the cause and how'd you get over it? Have you ever had an experience with a friend getting tilted at a game and what was your reaction ?
I generally am the person that gets mad at the game and talks a lot about how much it sucks, i never do that to people that dont know me or i never lash out to anyone specifically, mostly its stuff like "I hate this game" or "Why are we still playing this piece of shit" or "I hate that Symmetra (never actually telling the Symmetra i hate her though)" I geniunely dont realize that im doing it, and offer to mute myself the whole game if people dont want it. But my friends generally say "dont mute" or "its fun to listen to you get mad" and im not sure that they are having any fun and i feel like if they ever get angry at the game too that i was the problem.
It might be the fact that i dont like watching Youtubers or Streamers that have angry reactions to videogames while some of my friends do, or it might be that i know how it feels to get so frustrated about something unimportant so i dont like watching those kinds of content. Anyways what i wanted to discuss with everyone about was, do you get more tilted/frustrated with a friend on discord yelling at the game, or does it actually help you calm down more, or do you not even care about it since they're not talking about you.
What is your general reaction towards someone other than you being tilted ?
What do you consider as toxicty, being mean to other people or being tilted in general ? I don't mean like violent and shit. I'm finally getting over my ex, but for months I was really emotionally unstable, wishing to be taken back and then saying nasty things I now regret. All I can do now is think about what went wrong and how I can improve in the future.
Have you ever been surprised to "outgrow" certain artists, or dislike songs you used to love? How have your musical tastes changed with age?
But I'd like to know I'm not alone in regretting my post-breakup behavior. Have you ever been that person? What did you learn?
Have you ever caused someone to rage quit?
How did it happen and how did it make you feel?
My commander at the time was [[Doran, the siege tower]], and my opponent was playing black-green. I cast [[Illumination]] to counter a [[Sylvan Library]]. My opponent called me a "counterf*g", scooped his cards and left the shop completely.
I felt extremely confused because he had a fantastic board, and mildly delighted because I had never dreamed that Illumination would ever be a card to draw that much ire. What's the ugliest part of your body? At what age did you meet the love of your life? And how’s your relationship going? How did you meet your significant other? Let's be honest - is getting back together really a thing or just wishful thinking of this sub?
I realise while reading through this sub that "getting back together" is something that is mentioned in almost every single thread. Of course mostly heartbroken people visit this sub, so most of the people here naturally have this wishful thinking of getting back together with their exes. People who have just broken up lurk around here while people who finally healed and move on to meet new people stop contributing.
So when I look at the "real world", I have 4 friends that are going through a breakup right now and none of them have even been thinking about eventually getting back with their ex. When I think about past break ups of people close to me, I also rarely hear about any of them eventually and seriously get back together again (not talking about little flings that happen again) - maybe 15% out of all couples. And even less actually stay together for longer than half a year after that. Those are usually couples that broke up really young because of differing life plans and not something that had anything to do with their relationship itself.
Maybe its just my perception but getting back together is a theme that is super prevalent in this sub full of heartbroken people, and its rather a wishful thinking than a reflection of what is the reality. So guys, please be honest and think about all the people you know, all the breakups you heard about: Is getting back together really a thing? Does that ever work? To me, its only in this sub, in reality its a no for me. How many of you have gotten back together with a SO years after the relationship ended? I'm recently going through a breakup 3 weeks ago, and it ended on good terms; we both cried and talked for several hours, arranged some of her stuff, hugged and went on our way (We were living together, and most her stuff is still in our apartment). Reasoning is a lot started happening, and she started to doubt her feelings, mutually agreed it wasn't fair if she couldn't reciprocate and see what the future holds. Minimal contact since, but It's been a week now with No Contact for our own space and time.
Thanks for taking the time to read my story. I am in need of advice regarding my situation. I am 25/M and she is 22/F. She broke up with me a couple weeks ago. She suggested we take a break to figure things out but I never liked the idea of a break so I told her that if she wants to do this we would have to break up and see where it takes us or stay together and deal with it. I feel like breaks are the easy way to put down someone leaving them with a bit of hope to get back together in the future. With that said, her life has been stressful lately... issues ranging from afraid to graduate from college and get a job to being totally broke and working at a part time job, stopping by a bit of family issues. Pretty much afraid of growing up. I understand all that and support her through it. This girl is my best friend and I am her shoulder to cry on. I am the relationship type, old-fashioned, a gentleman and a scholar. I treat my girl like a princess and give her all the love she deserves while she is more of the independent type that needs her time alone from time to time with no contact. The reasons she gave me to justify our break-up is that she felt she can't get her life on track with me in the picture because I make her so happy she can't focus on this, this, and that. She also said there were a few things she wanted to do before being with someone (personal goals, not hooking up with other guys). She's working a part-time job and going to school. I understand she is busy but if you love someone, you make time for them. Don't you? Now during those painful long talks at the verge of breaking up, we made each other a few promises. She promised me she wouldn't hook up with anybody(her mind is elsewhere, focused on her future anyway) and that I would be her "next" boyfriend as soon as she feels her life is back on track and she's ready to date again(this could take 6 months up to 2-3 years). I believe her when she says these things because I know the person she is and trust her 100%. If she was to hook up with someone and I found out, I wouldn't take her back even though we are not together and she's free to do whatever she wants. A promise is a promise, it's a respect thing. I've asked her a few times, "How can you break up with someone you love so much and makes you so happy?" to which she replies, I just can't be with you right now. I thought couples in love were supposed to work issues out since love is "invincible" or is that only in books? She told me there were good chances we would get back together when she finds a good job and becomes stable. That's nice to hear but I can't help to think she tells me these thinks to make it easier on me. I would like to clarify I am not the possessive type. She was free to do whatever she wanted whenever she wanted. I never said no to anything she had planned with her friends. She's been going out more lately with a few of her friends which leads me to believe she felt "married" when we were together and she's enjoying being single again. We don't talk much anymore. I told her I wanted to stay close friends with her;no way I can get back with her if we drift away from each other. I would rather have her in my life than not at all. I don't want to lose her as a friend. Obviously, this makes the healing process a lot harder. We occasionally chit-chat for 5min online asking how each other's day was, and we leave it at that. She's also been texting me once daily for the past week to say hi and ask how I was doing. It's nice to see she cares about me. However I am heartbroken and I am trying to keep myself busy to cope with this. This is my second break-up, but feels worse than my first one (previous ex cheated). I am starting to feel depressed regardless of being a pretty strong person that I usually am. Not everything is pink in my life either, I have other issues to deal with on top of this. We hung out recently just as "friends" per my request. It was not awkward and I made an effort to show her I am doing "ok" and getting my life together. It was a mistake. Not being able to kiss the person you are in love with because "she said so" is the worst feeling in the world. Definitely torture and I don't think I can do it again. One of the main reason for the break-up is that she would not have time for us anymore. it's getting hard to believe since she's been going out quite a bit until ridiculous hours of the night and she hangs out with friends during the day here and there when she's off school and work. I don't understand why we cannot be together and hang out here and there like she's doing with her friends. Like stated earlier, it's hard to accept the reasons why we are not together anymore. Although they are valid, I feel like there is something else I am not being told. I am mature about it and I understand it's stressful in one's life to deal with growing up but it is hard to accept that if you are in love with someone, you can turn off any feelings you have for this person, "the love of your life", to pursue other things. In my opinion, the love we had/have for each other doesn't come often and is worth pursuing. I know quite a few people that would die for something her and I have/had. I feel like she really just wanted to be independent, single and not have to check in with her boyfriend.
Going by the way she acts and talks, I feel like it's been easier on her since it was her decision and that really breaks my heart. Although I might be wrong about all this, she might cry herself to sleep for all I know, but I doubt it. I feel like she's already over it. I must add we lived together for a while during our relationship and we had our ups and downs like everyone. We saw each other every day and woke up next to each other for the most part of our relationship. It's been really tough on me. My family loves her and her family loves me. So I turn to you the internet, I need other views on this. Preferably from females. I have hope that we end up together in the future and I won't let her go, for a WHILE at least. Now my question is.... Do you think there is hope and she's really that type of person that needs to be alone to figure it out or she gave me valid excuses to make it easier on me while it's really because she wants to be single and not have to worry about someone in her life?
Am I being stupid waiting for her? I've been going out myself with a few friends just to get out and get my mind off things;I have no interest hooking up with anybody or even look at other females. She said she sees us together down the road because we are perfect for each other and that she wished she woke up one morning so we could be together and happy forever. I am confused. Sorry for any grammar mistakes or overall order of things. I really dont have my head to myself right now. I am trying to keep myself busy with work and other things, but it's hard to focus with her on the back of my head 24/7.
I do deeply care for this girl, I'm 23 and she's 22. We have both grown a lot and both have a fair emotional maturity. She did say she wanted to try if her feelings became clearer or returned.
Has anyone ever successfully gotten back together with an ex?
If so, why did you break up in the first place? How long did the relationship last the following time?
Anyway, I'm wanting to know if anyone else has successful stories of getting back together with an ex? What happened and what made you want to? Who broke up with who? I've [F/23] recently gotten back together with an ex [M/26] after breaking up with him after a year of dating. We still love each and want to try it out again. I know there will be a difficult process of healing and learning to trust each other again, but I'm worried things will never go back to the way things were before the break up. How many of you have gotten back together with an ex after a breakup? Did it go well? Did you end up breaking up again?
Can you get back together with an ex and make things work? Obviously every relationship is unique however - for me, personally, I have always been stuck between: couples do it just because they can't find anyone else OR they realize their breakup could have been avoided/was for a foolish reason. What do y'all think? Does getting back together ever actually work out or should relationships be left in the past? I'm grasping at straws at this point considering I'm currently blocked with barely any contact, but the small hope that she might take me back is about all I have keeping me going.
Have you ever gotten back together with an ex?
Why did you do it and how did it turn out? Does getting back together with a past gf/bf ever work out?
I (22M) broke up with my gf(22f) a month ago and we have no talked at all yet. I have been wanting to talk, but I knew that I had clear my head before talking. Part of me is still considering bringing up getting back together. I have no idea what her thoughts are because we haven't spoken in a month, but I am just wondering if it has ever worked out for anyone? Have you ever broken up with a SO only to get back together years later?
It seems that most people reconcile within a few weeks, but I'm wondering if anyone has any "success stories" of getting back together after a much longer period of time, such as 6 months or even over a year or two. If so, did you stay in contact during that time? Did you date other people, or did your ex date other people?
