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How did you meet the love of your life?

People who have found the love of your life, how did you do it? How did you meet the love of your life? Have you found the "love of your life"? How do you know? How did you meet your true love? How did you meet the love of your life and when did you know?
My favorite question(s) to ask people has/have always been “how did you meet your significant other” and “what was your first date”. I love hearing the answers and even the simple things turn romantic when you know the couple has been together for years. For example; my parents first date was at TacoBell and they were set up by my moms best friend that happened to work with my dad. My grandparents on one side had their first date at a restaurant in town where my grandmother ate pizza for the first time in her life (she’d never heard of it until that date and was mad my grandpa only ordered “something for him, I was hungry too”). My other grandparents used to ride the bus to school together every day from kindergarten through high school. So please, tell me your stories! Where did you meet the love of your life? How did you meet the love of your life and when did you know they were “the right one for you”? How did you know that you've found the love of your life? I am 26 this year. I have never fallen in love not even in my teenage years. Being the first female in including my extended family to get an education and is allowed go everywhere without men. My mom used to advice me if you do wrong ;all make an example out of you and not let any girl study or let them do anything.
Except my dad most men in my family wanted me stop studying as was acing my academics and went to good univ on merit, so I made them and their sons look bad. I am not even making this up as my uncle actually said that to my dad "who will marry our sons if woman gets better job than my son, it not as if she will work throughout her life, stop her studies" So, I never acted on my crushes or dated anyone as I felt that woyld give them reason to stop my career. In univ, I posted a pic with classmates where one of guy casually had arm on my shoulder, We were 4 girls in my class of 65. So ,in pic was of 20 guys and 3 girls. I got into a lot of trouble with my extended family, as my cousin brother, showed it to everyone saying she is getting out of hand .So ,stopped hanging out with guys in univ as well.
Now, I am at stage, where I feel I missed on romance, love and even heartbreak , Most of my life went studying and acing it. But,personally I feel like a failure ,I didn't even have guts to date once. And almost everyone around me is getting divorced, breakups and those who were in good relationships are cheating and stuff.
So, I just wanted to hear whether love exists or it is just all part of movies. Lucky people, who have met the love of your life, what was your first time meeting each other really like? How did you first KNOW you were truly in love with the person you are in love with? At what age did you meet your life partner and how? How did you meet the love of your life? As a guy who gets a girlfriend on average once every 2 years I've just been made single again so am expecting a long wait before the next one... I was wondering how I'll meet them and it made me curious what how you all met yours! How did you meet the love of your life? How'd you know they were the one? Men who met the love of their life, how did you meet her? And what advice have you got for us? How did you meet the love of your life and then lose them later? How long did it take you to find the love of your life? Have you ever found your "true love", how did you know/did you ever have doubts? How did you lose the love of your life? What is true love? Have you ever experienced it? Did you settle for your life partner? Do you regret it at all? Did you marry someone you weren't passionately in love with? What's been your experience? What are the odds of meeting the love of your life at the age of 14? How would you describe your love life thus far? How does it feel to be rejected by the love of your life? Did you leave the love of your life behind and marry someone else? What happened to your life? What is it like to see your first love after a long period of time? Do you believe that you can have more than one “Love of your life?” Have you ever loved the right person at the wrong time? Do you find your soulmate in college or later in life? When did you realise that your partner was 'the one' and that you were in love with them? How did you fall in love during your school/college life? Share your first experience in love. How did your spouse make a difference in your life? When did you find out your spouse loves you even more than you thought? Did you marry someone just because you were afraid to be alone? What happened? What makes you believe you have found the one you want to be with for the rest of your life? Do you believe that people can stay faithful their whole life to only one person?
Scribbles · 36-40, F Best Comment
Wow, alot of questions.
I love the topic of love (if you'll forgive the pun)

I think the whole "love of your life" soulmate kind of love is just an invention.
People tend to idealize things.
And I think love is more free and open then that.

Are some friendships and love special? Yes. Absolutely. Some people simply connect and get along for whatever crazy reason and because each other just choose each other over and over to be friends or lovers or whatever. You just like and want each other enough to want to be together as whatever your boundaries and relationship ends up as. You choose to care about each other and support each other to whatever limit you choose.

When it's mutual and deep, it's a "wow" experience. Which is why I think some people find it an almost mystical or spiritual experience. And often end up talking about soulmates. Because it doesn't make sense and yet makes sense all at the same time. Sometimes People try to make sense of it and create that wow experience by either micromanaging their dating or by being more open. I imagine there is some success to it. But not a lot, because relationships are two way streets and involve alot of choices and feelings being mutual.

Sometimes those connections fade and people split. Sometimes people stay connected for a very long time. People grow and want different things and have different expectations and limitations that affect relationships sometimes. Sometimes feelings grow or fade. Sometimes something gets in the way. Friendships fade or break, marriages split or divorce. Sometimes friendships and love rekindle. Sometimes there's an ebb and flow to it.

Maybe the fact that it can feel so precious is a sign that most people are lonelier then they'd ever admit. Even people comfortable being alone. Maybe it's a human instinct to care about or love and be loved, just as it is sometimes an instinct to have a fight or flight response.

I never thought I'd love or be loved like I am and I try not to take it for granted.
Scribbles · 36-40, F
@Scribbles wow, thanks for best comment!

SW-User
Never dated her. Nothing. We liked each other throughout childhood that was it.. but 1st grade playing duck duck goose with her and the class was when it hit me. Been in love with her ever since. 50+ years now. Sad
RebeccaSJ · 46-50, F
At a philosophy group hosted by some mutual friends.
Montanaman · M
@RebeccaSJ

https://similarworlds.com/9771891-I-Want-To-Write-My-Random-Thoughts-And-Feelings/1849832-SilentPoetGuy-Me-I-stand-against-the-cosmic-Latte
SW-User
Idk if I've found him
Montanaman · M
@SW-User Hopefully you have. Your heart will let you know. It's the little things that you notice and let you know he loves you as much as you love him💞
I was born to them.
JFinch · 41-45, F
College. We're both athletes.
Montanaman · M
🙋‍♀️This!💕💞💕

https://similarworlds.com/9771891-I-Want-To-Write-My-Random-Thoughts-And-Feelings/1849832-SilentPoetGuy-Me-I-stand-against-the-cosmic-Latte
Scribbles · 36-40, F
@Montanaman❤️ I love your story because my husband and my "meeting each other" story was a rough start as well. But it sure turned out well! Lol
Montanaman · M
@Scribbles thank you for taking a moment to read and reply. 🤗🤗✍️☺️
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
She was(is) my hairdresser's daughter.
SW-User
Well, the person I call my LOML I feel safe with, hmmm maybe I should make a post

 
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