Why is it so difficult now my peers have children and I’m still single?

My some peers I’ve known since high school either are married/getting married or having children/have children and me……still flying solo. I’m 28 and they don’t wanna do the things we used to. And of course we’re not we’re not teenagers anymore. Do you ever talk about is their kids and help their kids are doing things. I mean I’m very happy for them but I want to have adult fun. But all they want to go it’s like a kids birthday party or kids theme or whatever. I mean I understand that but I want some adult fun with just them but feel like that we’re drifting apart. I’m still single. I mean I’m not ready to have children yet but I’m not rushing into married with children because I’m not ready for that but I want to be able to experience it before I leave this world.

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HermannFegelein · 26-30, M

I’m actually someone who prefers to only have friends. This means I’m often changing friends because the ones I do get eventually get girlfriends. Many times when your friends get a gf/bf they tend to lose time with their friends. It’s only natural I suppose. Are there exceptions? Of course but those are few. And you don’t have to disappear from their lives just because they got a bf or gf now. It just means they’ll have less time for you. It isn’t out of malice or anything like that. I can understand, I’ve been there.

And actually sometimes after the early stages of their relationship they’ll eventually come back around if you stay in contact even just slightly. Like my older brother barely had time to hang with me when he barely got into his relationship with his gf but after 4-5 years and settling down he suddenly started having more time for his siblings and friends again. Anyways I’m somebody who’s often meeting new people because I’m always moving so it’s natural for me to lose contact with friends. Friends come and go. The cool thing about this is that you can always make new ones no matter where you go.