Why is it so difficult now my peers have children and I’m still single?

My some peers I’ve known since high school either are married/getting married or having children/have children and me……still flying solo. I’m 28 and they don’t wanna do the things we used to. And of course we’re not we’re not teenagers anymore. Do you ever talk about is their kids and help their kids are doing things. I mean I’m very happy for them but I want to have adult fun. But all they want to go it’s like a kids birthday party or kids theme or whatever. I mean I understand that but I want some adult fun with just them but feel like that we’re drifting apart. I’m still single. I mean I’m not ready to have children yet but I’m not rushing into married with children because I’m not ready for that but I want to be able to experience it before I leave this world.

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REMsleep · 41-45, F

There comes a time when many people have children and get married. Once you have children your priorities change. Thats normal.
Once people are working when they have a little bit of time left they often want to do things that kids can do with them.
You might need to make some single friends.
Also please think about your time line as well. What age do you want to be married and have kids? Finding the right one can take a long time.
Having kids at later ages can be harder than media leads you to believe so just consider that too.
Some women's advocates are advising now to get you fertility checked around age 30 so you can know how much time you have left.

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@REMsleep that’s why I’m saying I don’t want to have kids when I’m 40! Like when you get older don’t be saying the time is ticking or whatever. I have a cousin that’s 37 she’s single with no kids and even her dad and her mom was “Your biological clock is ticking so you may wanna think about finding someone to share your life with. Of course take the time to get to know that person and in the future you can start a family because having kids later it’s gonna be difficult and have a lot of health issues.”