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Friends feelings were hurt because she couldn’t crash at our house while I’m 3rd trimester pregnant? After she worked at a festival?

I have a good friend from years ago. I see her every now and then. She is an events operations manager and works to design and manage large festivals which is great. I used to do it too many years ago and have moved into a different type of work. We keep in touch and I see her every now and then. She’s single and in her late 40s.. no kids.. over the past 10 years I’ve gotten married had a child and am pregnant with another on the way, just entering my 3rd trimester. During Covid she actually worked an event here in our city and needed a place to crash.. we let her stay in our spare bedroom she hung out at our house alllll day.. we bought lunch etc.. the next week she let us know she had gotten Covid from working the big festival.. our whole family caught it too.. this was almost a year ago..she called and texted me all weekend looking for a place to stay because she was working another big festival she knows I’m super pregnant.. and because of the new baby we’ve turned our spare room into a nursery.. she didn’t seem to have any sympathy and was really upset that I didn’t respond to her and that she had to drive home to her house over an hour away and come back to the festival each day over the weekend not being able to crash at our house.. I’m like in my mind “what is she thinking?!?!” I’m super pregnant and almost on bedrest etc because of high blood pressure and It would be such a risk to expose our whole family to any sickness at this point ... but like she doesn’t get it? And it seems her feelings were so hurt it might affect our friendship like eeek I don’t even know what to do... she’s one of my few friends and I want to believe maybe she just doesn’t understand?
wuiop2 · 41-45
I drive over an hour (each way) to pick up my daughter every other Friday. I do the same two evenings later. A trip of "over an hour away" is nothing, really. Even my son (eight years old, special needs) doesn't mind. He enjoys the ride, provided that he is still awake. My point is that 2.6 hours in a car really isn't that big of a deal, especially if it's a rare occurrence like a big event.

Don't feel bad. She's fine. If she doesn't get over it, that's on her. Your kids should be (and are, from what you state here) your first priority. Nobody has more priority than them, as far as you can control. Nobody.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
She understands but is selfish. Maybe that’s a friend you can afford to lose.
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
She sounds more like an opportunist than a friend but you know her better than I do...
If you truly believe she just doesn't get it, explain one more time and watch for her reaction.
That'll tell you everything you need to know, especially now that she knows how [b][i]you[/i][/b] feel about it.
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QueenandCrown · 41-45, F
Have your friend ever heard of hotels?
That’s [b][b]not[/b][/b] a very good friend if she can’t understand a pregnant woman wanting to take precautions during a [b]pandemic[/b]. 😳
Honestly, a friend wouldn’t have asked.

 
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