omg that would be my worst fear come true. And its my husband's too. We have accepted that a certain amount of paranoia is a good thing. I am so sorry that your marriage has come to that. if you had a do over...what would you change that would have avoided this?

I can completely relate to this. It seems like you both realized a problem a while ago but neither wanted to admit it or communicate it. The dinner was a catalyst to bring it all together. It seems you both still like each other and respect each other, you just don't love each other..

i hope it works out amicably.

That sucks but at the end of the day life is too short to not be happy