I Am Married

We went out to dinner and it was pretty silent. We didn't know whst to say to eachother. We finally talked and he told me that we should go our separate ways. I agreed with him. He just looked at me I don't know if he was waiting for a reaction. I told him about a guy that is interested in me. I explained I have not pursued or entertained the idea. I told him it did feel nice to know there was someone out there who was thinking of me. That it was new and exciting it made me realize maybe we should.
After dinner he hugged me, kissed me we held hands. He apologized that our relationship is such a mess. I know he cares but we both want different things.

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TexChik · F

omg that would be my worst fear come true. And its my husband's too. We have accepted that a certain amount of paranoia is a good thing. I am so sorry that your marriage has come to that. if you had a do over...what would you change that would have avoided this?

Lost34 · 41-45, F

If we had a do over it would be to understand and listen to eachother more.

TexChik · F

So there was a breakdown in communication? That is what I suspected was the problem.

Lost34 · 41-45, F

There was. The other problem was I wanted one more child and he didn't.

TexChik · F

I'm sorry. You seem ok with it though

Lost34 · 41-45, F

My husband and I have always made things work. We have been through so much. I thought there is nothing we couldn't over come. The baby issue and intimacy has been very hard. Its almost like the universe is giving us all signs to go our separate ways.

TexChik · F

Any chance a separation with a date night may allow you both to decompress and reasses?

Lost34 · 41-45, F

I don't know. Even though his told me separating is something we should do he still acts the same towards me. Hugs kisses. Im confused.

TexChik · F

He's possibly just as confused as you are.,. And you both seem to need the space