I Am Married

So my husband and I have been talking about separating. It doesn't look like we can sort things out.
I recently found out that a guy is interested in me.
Its been 10yrs since I've been single. I am still married. We are not sepatated. How do I deal with the situation. Should I entertain the idea?

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Trekker · 51-55, M

When I thought my marriage was over, I met someone. Piece of advice that I got was to wait until the divorce was finalized. I could wait a few more months and avoid the complications that get introduced while still being married.

The interest alone was a huge ego boost.

Turned out to be great advice. I'm still married and things have improved. My spouse thought I had someone waiting on the sidelines, could see I was happy without her, and when we decided to try to make things work, made a real effort.

Every situation is going to be different, but in my case not pursuing the person I met was good advice. As therapist and internet lawyers told me, waiting until the papers are filed isn't that much longer to wait.