I Am Married

If you are convinced that it's over......but remember there is no going back...

When I thought my marriage was over, I met someone. Piece of advice that I got was to wait until the divorce was finalized. I could wait a few more months and avoid the complications that get introduced while still being married.

The interest alone was a huge ego boost.

Turned out to be great advice. I'm still married and things have improved. My spouse thought I had someone waiting on the sidelines, could see I was happy without her, and when we decided to try to make things work, made a real effort.

Every situation is going to be different, but in my case not pursuing the person I met was good advice. As therapist and internet lawyers told me, waiting until the papers are filed isn't that much longer to wait.

Hey Lost...been where you are at. When it was decided that it was truely over I moved on. Even though we were separated I started seeing someone else. Just not at my house until the divorce was final. And yes the sex was exciting because it was new!

Yes, if you're sure you can't save it.

I know there will be no going back. That is why we have been discussing what we should do. It just annoys me because tells me that maybe I should see another person so that I can compare what I have. He says it because he knows there is no one else pursuing me. Now someone seems interested.

Ask your husband.

Right now its like a new person makes it exciting.
Thank you for all your advice.

I would say ask yourself if you would still want to end it if there wasn't a guy interested that was waiting for you. The new guy might be clouding your decision. That new guy might not stick around and you have to be happy with yourself being alone. I find it's best not to jump from one relationship to the next without giving yourself time alone.

Take things slowly with the other guy. Tell him you are still not single yet.