hello, why do you think most people online hide their identity, paticularly the men?

@Mondayschild yes so their wife or girlfriend doesnt catch them...

@LindaM not all of them. We have a lot of good,decent men here. It's best to not pm here with random people. Some of the women here are fakes as well.

@Mondayschild do you understand my point? we dont know anyone here and you can say oh he is my friend or whatever but the married men or men in relationships here are NOT your friend, they are using you for their own selfish reasons..if its so bad for them, then leave!!!!

@LindaM I do understand. My point is I'm very selective in my choice of friends. I have three friends here I do private chat with. We only chat about normal everyday life. Nothing like sex has ever come up in our chats. I research profiles before I even consider adding anyone. Nothing is guaranteed here.

@Mondayschild i have no friends here lol..i just post random stuff and comment on different things mostly because i am sitting here and want conversaton and yes i have spoken to a few and let me tell you, within 10 minutes the sex conversation comes up then i back out of the conversations until the next one comes along...look at my post ...some are silly and some are about this very subject and im sorry im ranting

@LindaM oh I have read your posts and I enjoy them. It's fine to vent but please don't put all these good guys in the same basket with the bad one's. Random PM's will get you in a mess.

@Mondayschild ok im going to tell you a story...this happened to me after my husband of 29 years and i separated..nothing happened we just fell out of love...anyways, here is my story..my friend encouraged me to go on a date site, she thought it would be good for me to have someone because she said i had alot to offer in a relationship and i deserved to be with a goo man.. this is 5 years ago..i had no clue what i was up for..i thought everyone was there for same reasons..conversation and maybe meet up and have a friendships and maybe a relationship..who knows but what i found was this...because i was single and had nothing to hide , i put my picture up and told a story of who i was..nothing personal...and OMG first weekend ever online and i received over 300 messages and i couldnt believe it and as i read i discovered about 80% of these messages were from married men and i couldnt believe it and to top it off , most of them were from my neighborhood lol..honestly i think it traumatized me..i told my friends of this at work and they were all worried maybe their husbands were online and who knows maybe some were...how scary was that for these married women...since then this is all i see on every site i go to and it makes me sick...i am not clumping all men together but to be honest, its not looking to good for them righ tnow in my books!!