So sorry that you're experiencing this TenderHeart... it sounds very hurtful. This is just my opinion, but I think your husband needs to give more concern to his emotional connection to you (because YOU are his wife!)... he's emotionally manipulating you by saying he would stop, but then resent you. Hope it gets better for you... take care of you...

An emotional betrayal can in some ways be worse than a purely physical one.

:( He should listen to you; especially if it bothers you, and if she treats him like crap.

Remind him why he wears a ring

Well if you married me, I'd probably drive you up the wall with all my attention leaning to you.

I am him. I work with a 41 YOF whos attractive. her husband passed and I have been her strength to get through. My wife is aware and feels threatened by her. We can talk about ANYTHING .I mean ANYTHING. I have never strayed from my wife since high school days.
My wife says she lost her best friend to someone else. I disagree.
But this is stressful to all involved at times. I just helped her move last week.

That must be really hard for you.

that's a very selfish response on his part....who is this women ,his mother?

weird relationship this?

Oh no.