I Am Married But Lonely

When you get to this point after years and years of feeling this way, I think it's time to view things differently. I am filled with regret choosing him and staying. I should have listened to my head a long time ago. Is it too late for me? Do I care enough about myself to fight for myself? Do I deserve more? I miss what I had with "him." It was too long ago. I'm sooo dreadfully bored with my life! I NEED OUT!

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SW-User

That sounds like my marriage. If you are to this point then you should really consider leaving. I didn't leave (because I thought my daughter needed an intact family) and I regret that decision every day. You don't want to end up 10 years older and still feeling the same way.

Justbecause

Do what's best for uou

airzzm · 41-45, F

Thanks Laifu1. I'm almost 17 years into this marriage and I have felt "off" since day 1. :-(

SW-User

@airzzm: Do what is best for you. You only have one life. Make it a happy one.

airzzm · 41-45, F

Thanks my dear. I want to so badly. But i've lost the energy to fight. :'(

SW-User

@airzzm: I totally understand that! Try a little bit at a time. See a therapist, start doing something new that you have always wanted to try, start saving money in a private bank account, etc... It may seem big now, but if you do a tiny bit every day then you will eventually succeed. I made friends online who help keep me sane.

airzzm · 41-45, F

@Laifu1: I think a therapist is a good idea. I saw one many years before and she really helped me. I wouldn't even know how to go about seeing one now as I don't know if my insurance takes it. The saving money little by little is being done too. :-(

SW-User

@airzzm: Your insurance company should have a list of therapists that take their insurance online