Just like in any relationship. How difficult and hard it will remain or not depends on how you two cooperate, and work on improving both individually and as a couple. All relationships has struggles, mental illness is just one type.
If I asked my boyfriend how hard it felt in the start, he'd go 10/10. If I ask him now he'd go with under 10. (I'll add his rating later after asking him)
I myself rate it 10/10 in the start. And 4/10 now. It feels like 10/10 in a conflict but that's because the sense of threat triggers our PTSD's. Afterwards in reality outside a flashback it's not that bad at all.
So 4, because we have worked on so many things together and on ourselves. Both are in therapy and both are commited to improve. And it shows.
Our week long conflicts are down to an hour at most. We know how to ground ourselves we know what coping methods to use. We know it's just a bump on the road. We know we can move on and enjoy the day together.
There's enough trust to not have to explain everything. We know eachother and what we usually need very well. Which also simplifies things.
