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Does it ever get easier loving someone with mental illness?

This is not a rhetorical question. I would like to know if it will always be this difficult and hard? Is this what the rest of our life is going to be if we ever figure out if there is still going to be a we? I am really struggling with loving my wife and I feel horrible.
PhilDeep · 51-55, M Best Comment
I think some childhood traumas can mess-up a person so badly, they're extremely hard to recover from, though not impossible. To have to remain beside someone that entire time while they're recovering might be beyond what's normally possible. Just my thoughts. Maybe some people are able to.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
Just like in any relationship. How difficult and hard it will remain or not depends on how you two cooperate, and work on improving both individually and as a couple. All relationships has struggles, mental illness is just one type.

If I asked my boyfriend how hard it felt in the start, he'd go 10/10. If I ask him now he'd go with under 10. (I'll add his rating later after asking him)

I myself rate it 10/10 in the start. And 4/10 now. It feels like 10/10 in a conflict but that's because the sense of threat triggers our PTSD's. Afterwards in reality outside a flashback it's not that bad at all.

So 4, because we have worked on so many things together and on ourselves. Both are in therapy and both are commited to improve. And it shows.

Our week long conflicts are down to an hour at most. We know how to ground ourselves we know what coping methods to use. We know it's just a bump on the road. We know we can move on and enjoy the day together.

There's enough trust to not have to explain everything. We know eachother and what we usually need very well. Which also simplifies things.
SmileSunshine · 31-35, F
Hmmmm. This is definitely a difficult position to be in. Mental illness is an everyday obstacle. Physical illness is an everyday obstacle. I remember my previous relationship…childhood trauma, PTSD, bipolar. It was hard. For me, it was going back to the foundations of who I was at the core. Would I have been able to put up with mental illness, yes. What I couldn’t put up with was getting cheated on and I let it happen twice. The first time I was convinced it was a mistake, joke was on me because it happened again. My suggestion, take the time to reflect and ask yourself the hard questions, confide in someone you trust whole heartedly and find comfort in living with no regrets and choosing happiness through your decision.
eMortal · M
@SmileSunshine The mental illness has nothing to do with the cheating
SmileSunshine · 31-35, F
@eMortal in my experience I don’t know if I can agree with that because I feel like it did. We can agree to disagree.
eMortal · M
@SmileSunshine Anyways, sorry you had to fo through that.
MasterLee · 56-60, M
No dealing with liberals gets harder by the day
It depends on the illness. Some wax and wane over time. So there will be good days and bad days. Sometimes over long stretches of time. Other illnesses will get worse over time especially without treatment. And some will get better over time as well so it depends on what is wrong.
No ,it doesn’t.Everyday there’s a new challenge .But again what’s life without a challenge?If you can get habituated living with her ,then there’s nothing to say

If you don’t somehow,maybe you should consider other options.
Morrigan · F
Its totally okay to struggle with dealing with mental illness because it likely this is not how you envisioned life would be.
Fukfacewillie · 51-55, M
Don’t feel badly, you’re a good enough just being responsible. It’s a myth love is unconditional.

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