I Am Unhappy In My Marriage

Truth

That is a very big assumption on your part that it is the marriage that is making someone unhappy. The fact is that it is the person making herself unhappy by not accepting what is and working within that framework in a productive way. Happiness and unhappiness is something from within not an external force.

True, but the words "in" and "with" indicate pretty much the same thing in this case.

And the title of the group is "Unhappy in my Marriage"

Whether its a personal cause or not, its also an assumption to think its a personal problem.

@krf336: The problem we in western cultures have is that we think our 'happiness' is paramount and if I just do this or change that (external) I will be happy. The fact is that happiness is an internal event and you can be happy in almost any circumstance. I read of a woman in a Nazi concentration camp who said she was happy there. She certainly didn't like the camp or her diet or the few clothes she had to wear but she was able to find happiness in her circumstance.

I am not arguing that many issues are internal, I agree with that. Address what you can change about yourself first...

But "happy", "content", "satisfied" are not the same things, so we all need to agree on a term before we can tell each other where our problems lie.

I dont think taking the stoic stance of "be happy no matter what" is very healthy either. A prisoner might convince herself she is "happy" but settling for "happiness"in that situation to me is not normal. I might accept it for what it is, but I woukd be fighting like hell to change my circumstance.

@krf336: Yeah and attitudes like yours only increase unhappiness as you discover happiness is as elusive as a zephyr but chase it fruitlessly anyways.