Are you the 'marrying kind'? Does or would marriage make your adult life 'complete'?
I dunno if I've ever dreamed of getting married, but plenty of people stlll cling to that dream.
hartfire · 61-69
I did marry - and stayed this way - so, yes, I suppose I must be the marrying kind.
I suppose the relationship could be called a success because we are each other's best friend, and we usually manage to resolve our differences. But it hasn't been easy. We've had to learn NVC, and how to make it a daily habit in communication style.
I suffer chronic depressions; he suffers ADHD. We both suffer from the consequences of each other's neurological failings.
We never had kids - and I'm grateful. He never wanted the responsibility, and I would not have wanted them to inherit our flaws.
For me, "completion" happens when I die. I see a life as an organic process with it's own natural drives which one attempts to fulfill at each stage of life.
I've become competent at most of the occupations I set myself to, and had minor successes, but was never successful in the sense of becoming or creating anything remarkable. Maybe that hope was just grandiosity. To have failed, in one's own eyes, is an incredibly common thing -- normal, in fact -- something I'm discovering in discussions with others of my own age and older.
I suppose the relationship could be called a success because we are each other's best friend, and we usually manage to resolve our differences. But it hasn't been easy. We've had to learn NVC, and how to make it a daily habit in communication style.
I suffer chronic depressions; he suffers ADHD. We both suffer from the consequences of each other's neurological failings.
We never had kids - and I'm grateful. He never wanted the responsibility, and I would not have wanted them to inherit our flaws.
For me, "completion" happens when I die. I see a life as an organic process with it's own natural drives which one attempts to fulfill at each stage of life.
I've become competent at most of the occupations I set myself to, and had minor successes, but was never successful in the sense of becoming or creating anything remarkable. Maybe that hope was just grandiosity. To have failed, in one's own eyes, is an incredibly common thing -- normal, in fact -- something I'm discovering in discussions with others of my own age and older.
PhoenixPhail · M
I don't know if I'm the marrying kind or not. It would sure seem I'm not. I've had plenty of chances, and have never been married. At this point, I think it's quite unlikely I'll ever get married.
My life is complete as it is. However, there are times I'm sure I would enjoy sharing that completeness with a wonderful partner. I would, however, still need my alone time. That's something that will never change.
My life is complete as it is. However, there are times I'm sure I would enjoy sharing that completeness with a wonderful partner. I would, however, still need my alone time. That's something that will never change.
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zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@justanothername Completely agree, but anecdotally it's women more than men that want to screw over the other partner when they feel 'unsatisfied' and want to move on to 'something better'.
tobynshorty · 51-55, F
@zonavar68 women have careers now and don’t really depend on a man’s money or anything else for their needs. I have never given anything less than my equal share. I have always worked for what I want and need. Marriage is such an old fashioned term.
Jonjdw · 51-55, M
I thought so. I guess if it never happened I would feel cheated. But now that the kids are grown and we have the grandkids here with us. Doing it all over again idk anymore. Just my thoughts.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
I’m definitely more comfortable with a woman in my life. It makes me a more complete person. I’m also much happier.
Short answer.
Short answer.
Ferise1 · 46-50, M
Yes I love being married to a sweetheart