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hartfire · 61-69
I think it does if your have the type of personality that is content with one partner for life and if you're having children.
So long as the parents are functional, the family is the best environment for raising healthy and well-adjusted kids.
There are other benefits too. If you're end up in hospital, close to death and unable to speak for yourself, a spouse is the best person to interpret your wishes for you. You know each other far better than family or firends ever can, The only alternative is to appoint a guardian who is committed to asserting your wishes for you, and make sure that person's identity and contact details are on a tag around your wrist.
The disadvantages of marriage can easily outweigh the advantages. It's very expensive to get a divorce if the parties can't resolve the issues.
I've supported my husband for the whole of our lives together because he's incapable of earning a living. A few years ago when I wanted a divorce, I had to settle. He now sleeps in a comfortable room at the back of the garage. We're still friends and help each other out at need. But the issues that cause me to want out are unresolved and unresolvable. So I live with chronic depression.
I think young adults are wiser and more likely to have a successful marriage if they choose a partner based on sanity, kindness, honesty, responsibility, ability to earn a living, and good health. Without these it doesn't matter how sexually attractive and satisfying you are, or how much you're in love: disfunction eventually destroys coupledom and family, and the ripple effects transmit down through the generations.
So long as the parents are functional, the family is the best environment for raising healthy and well-adjusted kids.
There are other benefits too. If you're end up in hospital, close to death and unable to speak for yourself, a spouse is the best person to interpret your wishes for you. You know each other far better than family or firends ever can, The only alternative is to appoint a guardian who is committed to asserting your wishes for you, and make sure that person's identity and contact details are on a tag around your wrist.
The disadvantages of marriage can easily outweigh the advantages. It's very expensive to get a divorce if the parties can't resolve the issues.
I've supported my husband for the whole of our lives together because he's incapable of earning a living. A few years ago when I wanted a divorce, I had to settle. He now sleeps in a comfortable room at the back of the garage. We're still friends and help each other out at need. But the issues that cause me to want out are unresolved and unresolvable. So I live with chronic depression.
I think young adults are wiser and more likely to have a successful marriage if they choose a partner based on sanity, kindness, honesty, responsibility, ability to earn a living, and good health. Without these it doesn't matter how sexually attractive and satisfying you are, or how much you're in love: disfunction eventually destroys coupledom and family, and the ripple effects transmit down through the generations.