Will my husband really change after cheating multiple times?

I found out my husband of 2 years (together for 11 years) has cheated on me through out our relationship, engagement and marriage. Mostly with online women and onlyfans. After I found out, he said he's very sorry and he's going to change (he didn't tell me about any of it, I found it all out myself) he's showing me that he's changing but I don't trust him, should I believe him or should I leave????

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MasterLee · 56-60, M

Do you cheat as well?

sunriselover · M

@MasterLee That is an interesting take. Because women do.

Baremine · 70-79, C

@sunriselover good response. My wife cheated on me and I never cheated on her. I didn't want her to go through the pain. Like I said it took 30 years to rebuild the trust. But we have 25 years after it was restored for a total of 56+ years of martial bliss and combat.
She is close enough to perfect for me.

MasterLee · 56-60, M

@Baremine I find this common. Woman has online friends but the man isn't allowed. The "but it is different " argument.

Usually comes down to insecurity and jealousy.

Not saying he didn't cheat but we only get one side and we are expected to rally to her side.

She does betray if it is real by making it public but that is a different argument.

Baremine · 70-79, C

@MasterLee I couldn't determine if it was strictly on line or if they actually became physically involved. The Internet has caused a lot of problems that are confused with reality.

MasterLee · 56-60, M

@Baremine I have the same question

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