My boyfriend said he will marry me in 3 to 5 years. Is this a good or bad thing?😃

@Queendragonfly It's not marriage, it's commitment

@daydeeo No. Commitment doesn't necessary mean marriage. There's plenty of ways to be commited without a public announcement.

"A committed relationship is one in which you and your partner intentionally say yes to a future together, and that yes is preceded by conversations about future hopes, dreams and plans for yourselves and the relationship itself," says Kait Scalisi, a certified sex educator based in New York City."

@Queendragonfly But if a couple is truly committed to each other, why not make a public announcement?

@daydeeo If a couple know they are commited, why marry ? Why not lay their money on something else?

@daydeeo @Queendragonfly Indeed! I could, in my case, get married to my fella (we've been together 6 years) but, as he knew, engagement (to me) was that [i]'big step'[/i]....ie, I'm not planning to get wed.

So, we got engaged last year (Valentine's Day) and that is our commitment....

But I know of LOTS of people that have been living together and that's it. I know of someone that's been living with her fella for 18 years...and only just got engaged....

So....summing up, sweeties; people do and think what they feel comfortable with. That doesn't mean they're a player....just means they are (probably) taking more seriously than some...

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@CassandraSissy Congrats to the engagement!

In Sweden most couples are cohabiting and that's called "sambo" which means you're living and being fully commited to your romantic partner and many have kids too.

I'd say marriage is the least of priorities here. Some do like you and engage but they never marry. And many do like me and do neither.

@Queendragonfly Thanks sweetie...

It's whatever works for the couple in the end, right?

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@CassandraSissy Exactly 👌😊