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Am I stupid?

My husband lost his credit card and insisted I had to call and pretend to be him and request they send him a new one. It’s his account, and a while back he ordered a card for me too.

Now, I’ve never lost a credit card or had one stolen. I’ve never had any problems whatsoever and I didn’t even know our cards were the same until that day. I didn’t want to pretend to be him, but he got mad so I just did it to make him leave me alone.

I called, and it was obvious I wasn’t a man. The woman on the like was like, “this is _?”….”ok _” haha. Kind of like, “sure, if you say so”

I said the card was lost and a requested a new one. I mean, that’s what happened.

Soooooo, then my card got cancelled too and now we’re waiting on replacements. My husband keeps going on and on about how I can’t even use any common sense and I shouldn’t have told them it was lost. I should’ve just requested a new one. I know that now obviously, but I had no way of knowing they’d cancel mine because he lost his.

So, am I dumb as a box of rocks for not realizing this?

I’m just tired of hearing my husband tearing me down about it and it’s really got me feeling like I’m just stupid and incompetent.
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morrgin · F
I was going to post a topic that you basically covered here with yours.
I hate it when my husband wants me to do something that he is fully capable and able to do himself and then he gets really mad and throws tantrums when I dont want to do it or the results after I finally do it he doesnt like and then he gets angry.
whisperingwillow · 36-40, F
@morrgin It’s exhausting. I’m sorry yours does this too. I always end up caving because he does have soooo much on his plate and I WANT to be helpful! But when you feel like you’re not even appreciated it’s very frustrating. I actually told mine today that he’s got me feeling like I should just stop evening hanging out with people because I’m too incompetent and stupid to even keep up anymore. And that’s HIM! I know I’m better than that…but after a while the nonsense really weighs you down no matter how confident you are. I hope you guys communicate well and learn better over time
DrWatson · 70-79, M
@whisperingwillow In my marriage, this happens with the roles reversed. My wife often wants me to call, text, or email someone on her behalf. Often she is critical of how I did it.

So I ask, "If you keep getting upset with me, why do you keep asking me to do it?"

She answers, "Because you're better at these things than I am!"

🤷🏼‍♂️
morrgin · F
@DrWatson yeah thats what my husband says too. They should do it though. We all have to start somewhere
whisperingwillow · 36-40, F
@morrgin Mine just says he doesn’t have the time for it. And since I stay home with our daughter it’s my job lol. So I guess I’m earning my keep 😜😂
DrWatson · 70-79, M
@whisperingwillow I work full time, our daughter is grown, and my wife is at home alone.
whisperingwillow · 36-40, F
@DrWatson Ah. Does she struggle with anxiety?
DrWatson · 70-79, M
@whisperingwillow In general, she does not.

She says I am more tactful than she is when talking to others.